Moving siblings into same room

I have two boys - 1yo and 3yo. We’re thinking of moving them into the same room as 1yo is currently still in our room. But he doesn’t sleep through the night and still wakes at least once for a quick feed. My 3yo will generally sleep through but has a slightly later bedtime (about an hour later). When did you move siblings into a room together? Those who moved them in despite different sleep times and nighttime wake ups, did these cause any problems for the other sibling? Any general advice on this transition?

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my husband is the exact same! But both boys LOVE climbing and I am terrified for their safety! My husband is so lax about it all 🤦🏻‍♀️

just addressing the bunk beds, the top bunk is 5+ for safety,if you need a reason to say no. You could just have them watch the bunk bed scene in step brothers....

Is there a way to move the bedtime to the middle of the two times?

We will be moving our daughter in next year, but my husband is a planner, so I'd like to have possible solutions for his "what happens if..." questions

thank you re the bunk beds!

We’re trying to move their bedtimes closer but it’s just a bit too much for my youngest. We’ll try again in a few weeks and see if that’ll work.

My 3 year old and 16 month old share a room. Baby still wakes several times a night and big brother sleeps through it. I actually had the opposite issue, 3 year old was going to bed at 7 and baby went to bed at 9. We just recently got them on the same schedule when baby dropped to one nap. They both go up for bed at 7. If 3 year old goes to bed later, you could always try moving his up a little. We did recently get a loft bed for my 3 year old so there is some room to hang out under so it kinda feels a little space saving but it’s a low loft (like only slightly taller than the 3 year old. The baby can stand up under but he is the only one.)

We're moving and disassembling the bunk reminded me of this post

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circumcision

are we circumcising our boys? or leaving that to dad?

Routines?

When did you start to introduce your baby’s routine? Do they just have a night routine or full day routine? Wondering when I should start this e.g naps at the same time everyday.

Any routines you have that work for you, please let me know them with timestamps. my baby is 6 weeks and just wondering when we should start them?

I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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Hey,

Baby is getting slightly too heavy for his travel system now.

I was just wondering want strollers people recommended. Thank you

Do men really enjoy fellatio?

Been together more than 10 years, but it's been a while since he even seemed remotely interested in me getting on my knees, or vice versa so to speak. I think it was once last year. Must be something I am doing wrong 🤔. Generally everything else in that department is great and we have two young kids with no extra support, so it's quite surprising we can't keep our hands off each other but may need to try new things. It's basically 2 positions each time with some foreplay.