Kid just started with preschool. 3 days a week 9am until 3:30. I work from home. Its been 2 weeks, the crying has not stopped.

Her teacher texts me she is crying and I go pick her up by 11:30. But she does emphasise its normal for kids to cry and that I pick her up only if I want to, she is ok either way. But since I have it easy I go. Most of the kids there are happy, only 3 or 4 including mine may be miserable. Maybe I spoiled her?🙈

What should I do?

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Why would she stop crying if she knows you're going to come and get her?
Sorry if that sounds harsh, but children know and will use it. What happens if you can't go? She will find her way and start to enjoy it.
You'd think her teacher would be trying to include her in activities and not trying to palm her off. Ask for a meeting with her as to how you're going to move forward

She knows if she cries you go get her...she's never going to get used to it if you keep picking her up so personally I'd leave her there. I understand your concern but she needs to get used to it one way or another.

If she's never been in daycare before I'll say it's harder on kids who go part time but M-W-F fulltime is great! Or if you can do it like M, T, W or W,Th,F so it's more consistent of a schedule for them.

When kids go half days I notice they struggle much more compared to kids who go to daycare either 3 consecutive days in a row or fulltime is best lol honestly. & they'll cry for 2-3 weeks If it's their first time there. It's easier on kids who have been in care since 0-2

3 is the big emotions age lol

Most kids do adapt, I will say that. I've had four kids. Sadly 😔 My oldest son cried every single day of preschool and I very much regret making him go. I believe he was truly too young or just not ready socially to be away from me. He only went half days and clung to his teacher. Every child is different. I didn't have a job to go to, I just went with the flow and did what everyone told me to do. Listen to your motherly instincts. I was heavily influenced by society to start my kids very early. And sometimes that can be a good thing . In some countries, children may still be breastfeeding at 3 yo
Also, he never ever liked school all the way up to graduation, and I believe the way he was introduced to school had a significant impact. This is just my humble opinion and based on my experience having 4 preschoolers

Do not go get her. She will be fine once she gets the hang of it

It took my son about two weeks to get used to daycare. After that he was fine

Either you need to pull her out and try again when she's a bit older, or you need to stop going and getting her. It's absolutely fine if you think she's genuinely not ready and you have the flexibility to delay it, every child is different. But if you keep sending her and then caving because she cries that's setting her off on the wrong foot, it can and will spiral into worse behaviour if you don't nip it in the bud straight away you're potentially setting yourself up for trouble long term

My son goes half days M-F (1-6pm) & at first he cried but the teachers there told me that it’s much easier for him if I don’t linger & try to comfort him, just high-tail it out after drop off, and also don’t pick him up early. He got used to it after about a week & now loves it! It’s soooo hard to leave them there knowing they’re upset but it’s honestly for the greater good and you’ll be happy you did it once she’s thriving with tons of new friends x

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