At my wits end- rant

LO cries and screams most of the day and night. I just feel like I can't enjoy the here and now as my nervous system is in overdrive. Whenever I do get a spare minute I just find myself sitting, staring in silence, kind of in shock. Everyone else seems to have a better time with their babies and I'm so jealous. We struggled to conceive so did IVF, now struggling once baby has arrived. Can the shitness be spread about a bit more, my God. I always get the shit end of the stick

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Have you sought help or advice from your health visitor to rule out any underlying issues for your LOs crying? How old are they? As if they are very young (newborn) growth spurts can cause a lot of crying and them to be unsettled
I’m sorry to hear you’re having tough time, it’s not always enjoyable so please know you’re not alone. Every baby is also so different so try not to compare. I’m sure you’re doing your best though Mama, again not sure how old your LO is but it does get easier.

Ohh that sounds rough, fingers crossed the milk makes a difference and hopefully things will get easier. Don’t feel bad for needing a rant, sometimes you gotta let it out!!
It definitely won’t always be this way and it will get easier as baby grows. Having a baby is already a massive shock to the system never mind added struggles on top. Sending you all the good vibes x

Ah I'm so sorry.
Often the baby feels the anxiety of the mom. They're not happy, you're not happy and u both feed of each other's intensity.

Can you catch a break for a few hours?
Go somewhere nice on your own? Ask someone to look after him for a few hrs?

The new baby stage can be brutal!
Give yourself credit, love, and self care where you can.
It feels like it goes on forever but it will soon be a dream.

Hugs.

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!