Venting advice

My BD cheated and we left the house and into the shelter found out he didn't put me or us on the lease. He bought the new gf into the house to live with him after 5 days of us breaking up like wow, so I want my stuff and my children's stuff he won't give it to us but he gave it to her kids when they moved in and he isnt really messaging to see his kids, to hear about how there day was at school or if they need nothing. His parents are disappointed in him and want to see them in private now so there are no issues between them and their son..... I don't know how to feel since the breakup moving the girl in and now his parents want to see them in secret, etc. I feel so numb and I wanna tell everyone to fuck off. Im trying to be strong, I really am but since I got 100% responsibility I feel like i cant do nothing, I feel like im choking and my kids are missing there room, there toys and there sorry excuse for there father....Guys i dont know what to do anymore I feel like im there but not there

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I’m soooo sorry y’all have to experience that. I would personally cut ties with everyone just to process and recenter myself and focus on getting my children and myself back stable. Those things can be replaced. He doesn’t deserve you all or anything involving y’all

I am sorry u are going through that my be try and speak to the landlord to see if he can try and convince ur bd to give at least the stuff u payed for if not u will probably have to make an report into the police and show receipt of the things u paid for and ask if u can have someone from the police accompany u to the house but first try and get someone from ur family who ur close with to try and get ur stuff back and record what happens if you are unsuccessful and then show it to the police because he is in the wrong for hold ur things like that and has no right to give it away. The police can help u get ur stuff back.

It’s a sad situation love but listen you dodge a major bullet and your kids will understand when they get older. Depending on their age let them know their dad broke the family up and yall have to heal together, let em know you’ll get new things/rooms what’s important is yall have each other.

File for child support and custody, and start applying for housing and daycare funding the shelter can help wit all that. Call the police department not 911. And ask if they can meet you there to pick up you and the kids things.

I’m sorry yall are dealing wit thisss it’s so unfortunate you’ll get through this love. 💜

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If yall still giving your kids processed food, pls seek help

I understand not everybody can afford healthy ingredients all the time, but I’m seeing so many moms on social media giving they kids artificial cereals, coffee, frozen pancakes, velveetta Mac and cheese, hot Cheetos, kraft, the list goes on. I’m sorry but are yall not capable of cooking from scratch or ?? On top of that, if you still using canola and vegetable oil in 2026 you gotta stop. Am I the only one that notices this ???

Sahm .. the dad role .

Hi!! I’m 2 months pp. and I really would like your opinion on this situation if you have a moment.
So I have always had a job before the baby, and my bd .. not really. But 2 weeks before he was born he scored a really good job and I was able to be a sahm. Which is what I wanted , and I’m unsure if it’s still what I want or if the situation just isn’t right.
At first he was a great help in the hospital as I had an emergency c section. I was in the hospital for about a week and for most of that time I was in bed .
But after that.. I’m lucky if he will watch the baby while I shower .and I mean that seriously.
I am the only one who changes diapers, only one who bathes , feeds or watched him in general. And of course he may be tired after work but it’s like he completely avoids any responsibility. Like he will take a hour coming home and stop by his friends house otw . He will sit down stairs for hours knowing I won’t go down there bc I’m uncomfy . So I have the baby then.
We have been out maybe 2-3 times sense I had him & he refused to push the stroller c change or anything. In fact we got to the mall and said he needed to split up and I had the baby.
I feel he only wants the baby when it’s for … attention? Like to post the baby on social media or if his family is here he will take him .

I just feel like on days he doesn’t have work the next morning he should be helping , and if he is up early before work while I’m still sleeping he should get the baby instead of scrolling on reels for 3 hours .

Honestly he has really ruined my new born phase with my son. Within the first week of us being home I had to full on switch to survival mode I would call it. He would complain if dinner wasn’t done or if the room was a mess , he would complain if the diaper caddy had no diapers which really makes no sense bc he didn’t even changed the diapers . It was just everything.
I’m just wondering if there is anything I could say to get some type of help out of him.
I tried reaching out to his mother but honestly his hole family is oblivious to his behaviour.

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Guys I need help! This is going to be my daughter’s nursery and I want to make it cute. Help me find an aesthetic look or a good layout to place some furniture/cribs etc!!

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Should I respect his wishes??

I’ve been a SAHM for 4 years now and my husband does a great job providing for our family and we never need for anything. With that i still had to sacrifice some wants like shopping when I want getting my hair and nails done regularly so when I can I try to supplement for my wants and savings by selling my craft items at vendor markets and recently I’ve started donating plasma. Which has been consistent income for me. $125 twice a week. Well my husband has expressed that he doesn’t like me donating plasma. He feels like it’s not worth it to put my body through those conditions for $125. He even went out to sell one of his guns today and gave me all the money and told me “I shouldn’t have to donate plasma no more”. That was so sweet but I disagree. I planned on continuing to donate plasma to save for my kids birthdays thats coming up, a trip we have planned and our anniversary. I don’t know what to do. I finally found something that pays something consistently and my husband is against it. What should I do?

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Hi I am running out off ideas on what to make for Lil 14 month old for breakfast lunch and dinner if anyone have any resipes would be great to try my boy with them