Is work enough

My husband thinks that him working is enough. That when he comes home (since I have been on short term leave the past couple months and have become a sahm) it’s enough. That he doesn’t have to help with chores or really take care of his kid. I asked him to take care of her on the weekends at least cause I’m just so tired. I’m on short term disability cause of my depression and I’m struggling with my meds. But I still wake up multiple times at night cause my daughter doesn’t sleep through the night yet. But yesterday. I lot it and told him he doesn’t help. He got defensive and said “I work!” And a couple more things that implied that he thinks I’m not working all day too.

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He married you for better or worst and if which it sounds like in your situation you are at 0% so as a partner and FATHER he should be carrying the family at 100% effort until things balance back out

Ima first time mamaa not married yet but my partner was kinda like that and was aggressive about it at first but then something clicked like ohhh shittt she does need my physical help day to day help . . . I’d say try bringing it up again or even writing it out so there isn’t face to face emotions getting in the way of the issue at hand

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So how I explained it to my man: if I worked as a nanny for 8hours a day that would qualify as a full time job and be equivalent to your full time job. Which is exactly what I'm doing for you and your kids while you are at work! I'm a full time nanny! Therefore, all the remaining responsibilities should be split 50/50. It is unfair for you to nanny 24 hours (3 full time jobs) while he only works 1 full time job.

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My man is step dad to my kids. He helps cook (2nights a week) he does laundry I fold and hang. He picks up rooms and he helps with dishes

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My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

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I’m so jealous of him and it’s making me resentful. We have a ten week old and I’m jealous that he is at work all day. I’m jealous he can leave for lunch and actually eat an uninterrupted lunch. Take a phone call uninterrupted. Chat with a friend he runs in to uninterrupted. Even go to the bathroom when he wants uninterrupted. He comes home from work when he wants. He’s not on a set schedule. Some days are late some are early. It depends on when he’s done. I’m jealous he can come home at 10pm and shower, eat and go right to bed uninterrupted because I already have the baby asleep. He doesn’t have to worry about anything house wise or baby wise because I’ve done it all. Meanwhile I’m covered in puke and crap and smell like rotten milk. When he is home he is VERY active and helpful. So it’s not that. I’m just jealous his world hasn’t changed and mine has I guess. This isn’t something he’s doing wrong so I’m not sure how to get past this. I wish I could keep him home all day because that’s how helpful he is, but I understand he obv needs to work.

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My mum has just given my 4 year old calpol because he asked for it. He isn’t poorly (although was last week, been fine this week) he just likes the taste of it. My mum didn’t check, didn’t ask, just gave it to him and when I’ve questioned her she said “he asked for it”. Then quizzed 4 year old who said he asked for it because it tastes nice.

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