Does your baby cry each time it’s for nap? Feeling lost, please help.

Baby is 8-weeks old and each time he goes for a nap because he’s obviously showing tired signs… he always cries and yells. We’ve done everything recommended in a sleep course; watch for wake windows, stimulate wake windows, effective feeding. But we are having a hard time balancing sleepy cues and over tiredness. It feels like it shifts in a split second. Is this normal? 97% of the time it’s like this. I feel like a failure. He eventually will go to sleep with a blacked out room, shushing, swaddled, ideal room temp, fed, diaper changed, white noise, and working. But he will never just fall asleep. He always requires all of these things and sometimes it takes a long time through the crying and yelling. Open to suggestions!

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Currently dealing with this with my 6 week old. She used to have NO issues going to sleep but she's been fighting it recently. The only thing that gets her to sleep is immediately putting her on my chest with a blanket wrapped around me so she's close to me after she's done eating. I wait till she's DEAD asleep before even thinking about moving her. If all else fails I just let her use me as a pacifier

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Today my little one would be awake for 20 minutes in between each nap before losing it. I'd do everything i could think of to calm her down and get her to sleep but she just kept screaming until she passed out then would wake 10 minutes later and the cycle would restart. It's been so hard. These early weeks are so hard. They were this way for my first baby also even when following their cues and wake windows. Sometimes I think there is just nothing we can do but be there for them 🤷‍♀️

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Okder babies unfortunately don’t ‘just’ fall asleep. Even the sleep trained ones require the blackout curtains and white noise and swaddle and a familiar environment. As for his screaming try taking him to bed 15 minutes earlier or later to see if that makes a difference.

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8 week old baby here and this sounds normal to me! Just have to cycle through the things that work and sometimes nothing does and they just have to cry until they fall asleep.

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Yeah our 9 week old almost seems like he gets scared to fall asleep and screams and kicks. We usually have to just walk him around and hold him close until he finally surrenders. This started around 7 weeks I think

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