Reflecting

I grew up with strict parents and I am now also a pretty strict parent and sometimes I think maybe I’m to strict and expect to much from my toddlers .. yes they are only 3 and almost 5. But the way I see it I’m try to teach them from the get go what’s wrong and right and how to treat people and animals and they have strict bedtime routine rules same with meals but I do think maybe I’m no fun, maybe I’m to strict, maybe my kids don’t like me as a person…
My almost 5 year old when I ask them to do something at times she’s even said yes sir! I’m not sure where it’s come from… and recently she turned around and said I hate you mummy not in an angry way or upset just said it to me just letting me know!

Yeah … don’t know how I feel really

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My 4 year old told me yesterday he would like a different mummy. He didn’t mean it and got upset when I asked why he said it but it bloody hurt hearing it!

You have to have some boundaries and rules and sometimes kids don’t like that, so maybe that’s where that comment came from 🤷🏼‍♀️

I find myself parenting like my mum did sometimes and I catch myself and think I need to make more of an effort not to - she was quick to shout and get stressed easily and I hated it.

I felt like I was going to write this comment and have a point to it, but I guess the point is, you’re not alone!

Hi just read your post and I am also strict as in bedtime routine, cleaning up obviously I only make them pick up a few things as my twins are only 4 I must admit I do shout and am stressed a lot one of my sons said to me stop being mad which made me cry because I realised I was turning into my parents and they was always mad & angry however I am very fun, I spoil my kids and play with them and are really affectionate and they are safe I am just a bit shouty sometimes but after the comment from my son I have been making a conscious effort to not react and take deep breaths and regulate I guess what I’m saying is the fact that you’ve posted this shows how much you love your kids and care it’s never to late to improve your relationship with them I would say play with them for a short period each day even if it’s for 10 minutes but doing exactly what they want and let them take the lead like don’t tell them how to play or if they put the puzzle piece in the wrong place for example

my son told me “alright, Keep your hair on “ 😅

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Idk if this is the norm or not…..

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