Going home for Christmas

Hey, so curious if I should go home for Christmas and visit my whole family mom and two sisters (one lives there, and one will be visiting as well) and I have aunts and my grandpa not to mention my husband’s family lives there as well. I have a complicated relations with my mom and sister and an emotional wound that always gets opened up and throws me into what I am sure is a depression for a whole moth afterwards. I feel I should choose my peace , and maybe tell my family I won’t be going home. It is sad and I don’t want to be that person or create extra drama but if the same pattern happens every year isn’t it more ridiculous for me to continue going. What if the fomo makes me more depressed. Anyway love to hear some thoughts.

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Protect your peace!! If you know visiting will have a bad effect don’t go. Or at least go to visit everyone else. Or maybe do a video call so you’re still involved but at your leisure and in your space.

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