How often do grandparents see their grandchildren

I live 10hours away from my parents, we try to see each other once a month. In laws are also 10 hours away and haven’t even seen them yet but they act like they’re going to make an effort and come see us. If you don’t want to be around your parents/in laws weekly then just say no.

The answer is gonna be different for everyone because we all have our own unique family situations. There is no one size fits all and you are free to allow, or not allow, whatever amount of visiting makes you feel comfortable.

I see my parents who live around the corner almost every day lol even just for short periods of time or dropping something off etc.

We see my husbands parents a lot less but I would welcome more time with them (I don’t drive and they live almost over an hour away so the ball is kind of in their court)

Sometimes monthly - sometimes longer. We have a life outside our in laws and just because we had a baby doesn’t mean we need to change our life to accommodate them seeing a baby. They are about 45 mins away and constantly overstep boundaries so they were pushed to 1-3 months between short visits.

My mom lives out of state so we her quarterly but we have a better relationship with her and so don’t really limit it - it’s just what works for schedules.

Whoever wants the least amount of contact is who controls this.

My parents it seems like every 2months, in-laws never

I have no living family. It’s just my husbands parents and grandparents they both live in the same city about 5 hours away. We’ve had to make the tough decision to go no contact with his parents but when we did have contact we’d see them roughly every other year but it’s been well over 3 years now. We see his grandparents once a year though.

Where is your husband/partner in all this and why is he not the one setting boundaries with his parents? I only had to get firm with my inlaws judgy comments about my health when all my husband's attempts failed. When I did confront them, I phrased it as their comments made it difficult for me to have the open and honest relationship with them that I wanted. I think that was easier to hear than "you're being disrespectful" and I asked them to phrase concerns as questions instead of statements. It was an awkward conversation but it made their next visit so much less stressful.

Once a year. Ours live far away.

i live next door to my parents, so literally every day. my daughter goes over after she lets the ducks out every morning lol. she spends about an hour with my mom unless she winds up going to do farm chores with her. in laws every few months. they call once a week and video chat tho.

I live a 17 hour drive/2 hour flight from my parents, so they see him every other month or so, sometimes a little less/more frequently depending on schedules. My in-laws live an hour drive from us and they see him every few months on average as well. I would love for them to see him more frequently but our schedules do not often align well.

We live next door to my FIL, MIL passed a few years bf our youngest was born, but she was pretty invested in her bonus grandson, treated him just like the other grands. We live about 45mins away from my stepmom, dad passed 1.5yrs ago & bio mom passed nearly 36yrs ago. We kinda take care of my FIL, but I don’t usually see him but once a week-/+, I cook for him but hubs brings it over, they’ve never been overwhelming, a bit curious at times, nothing like being middle aged & getting calls “where you at” just bc you aren’t home.🤣
I haven’t seen my mom since June, got a call for the kids’ bdays in September. I’m not good at phone calls & she doesn’t text, I’m only available weekends unless she comes to the house, she’s busy restarting her life w/o dad & she’s been traveling a bit w/the guy she’s dating, which dad told her she better get back out there bc she was only 59, she said yes & they hit it off. So kinda letting her live her new more active life,while she was single we hung out more.

Weekly mostly. If your not comfortable, ask them if their in laws did it to them. Also just tell them that is not something that makes you feel comfortable, they can tell your husband instead of you and off they continue then you'll need to reduce the amount of time you spend with them if they don't respect you enough to follow your wishes.

If we lived closer, I would try for a couple times a month or more. We live 8+ hours away driving without stops so we squeeze in whatever time we can get so around 1-3 times a year. Not sure how it will go here in the future though for a few reasons.

We are very close from my in laws. Sometimes we see them every week and something we can go 3 weeks without seeing them because we have things to do.

My in-laws live far far away thankfully. They used to do that all the time. They still tell my husband but he just ignores it.
My grandparents come once a week. I live 5 min away from my mom, but she never comes by.
I used to beg her to come by and see the kids because they truly love her… but she never wanted to be a mom and definitely giving not wanting to be a grandma either.

My in laws we see every 1-2 weeks but I love them and they’re literally our sons favourite people. My mum we see whenever there’s a family event. My dad we see at a birthday or Christmas and that’s about it lol

My grandparents will be my sons grandparents as my mom died when I was 16 and my “father” is currently sitting in jail but he will never be in my sons life as he could never be in mine. I currently live with my grandparents so at first that will obviously be an everyday thing however when we move out he will still see them just about everyday as they have said they will watch him when I start working again!

My kids’ grandparents are 20 minutes away (grandma works about 15 minutes away) & we still only see them maybe every other month, except around holidays.

MIL once a year. My Dad, few times a year. My birth Mom, no.

We see my mum and dad about 3/4 times a week

My mum lives around the corner, and we see her every couple days. My in laws live about 30 mins away, tbh I don’t love them my partner goes there once a week,I’m at work so I only ever see them on Xmas and birthdays and that suits me just fine.

My parents (40 mins drive) once a week or sometimes once a fortnight. My partner's parents (1 hour 20 mins drive) once a month at most. For both it's us visiting and making arrangements with them most of the time.

In laws weekly as they live 10 mins away. My parents who are an hour away at least monthly

We only have my mum and step dad my mum visits when she can or ibgo to her. We work around each other if we don't see each other we text she asks about the kids. We don't see much of each other as my mum is living her life after retirement and nearly losing her last year. But she always here for us. My step dad comes once in a blue moon.

My parents are 2 hours away and we see them monthly, sometimes more. MIL is 4-6 hours away (traffic can be awful) but is in her 80s so doesn't like the long drive (it's too far for us to travel with a newborn and toddler). We see her 2-3 times a year.

My side weekly-15 mile

His side 4 -6 ish times a year 2 hour drive & his mom (RIP dad) doesn’t drive so these trips are us to her.

Both sets every week

My parents are about 40 mins away and my partners parents are less than 5 mins. I see my parents maybe once a month or so and my partners parents probably every other week on average

My parents live down the street from us, so we see them daily for about an hour, unless they're away visiting my sister's family across the country.

My MIL and BIL live in another state, so we see them maybe twice a year. There isn't much motivation on their end to be involved and I'm okay with that, lol.

I don't have parents anymore, and my husband's family are across an ocean, we haven't seen them since last December.
When we lived in Algeria we would see the in laws almost every day.

My parents live close and see my kids monthly or bimonthly, sometimes more often depending on the month.
My in-laws see them a few times a year they live far away.
You and your mental health matter. If you’re stressed out and upset when they are around then that’s not good for your children and your family.
Lay down the law with your in-laws. Tell them you will ask for help when you need it but them parenting you while you’re parenting is unacceptable. They don’t need to come over if they can’t just relax and enjoy themselves.
I went no contact with my in-laws and boy did they change their ways because they realized I wasn’t kidding.

We only go to my in-laws who live 2 hours away maybe once every 4-6 months. Mostly for Easter or Thanksgiving dinner. If they want to see your child so bad they should make the drive too. Unfortunately my in-laws only came to visit us once when our 2nd daughter was born. My parents live 5 minutes away so they get to see the kids almost on a daily basis

I go over to my mums multiple times a week

Well, my mother got a ride and came to where my youngest child and I live (an hour and a half north of where she and my older children reside) and picked him up a bit over a week ago. She's now behaving as if we're in a custody battle and telling me that she'll "let me know" where in the town that they live in where I can pick him up today. Long story short, I'm irritated, anxious, and I have no plans of my mother seeing my child in anything but a video call from now on.

I’m telling you right now if you don’t want them coming don’t invite them/ let them think they have some type of power. I have similar situation but with my parents and in the beginning we let them come every week and now they only see her once a month or two. They say things that are not ok and do things that are not ok and cross to many boundaries of ours. At the end of the day yes you can listen to their wise advice but doesn’t mean you have to follow what they say. To me it sounds like manipulation.

I think the time between visits doesn’t matter as much, it’s whatever you and your partner agree on. But again trying to set boundaries on hearing their advice. Maybe telling them you appreciate their experience and will definitely ask their advice when you need it. Also, if they want to come that often, tell them you’d love for them to spend the time with their grandkids and you’ll use that time for things you need to get done (like hair, nails, shopping 😁)

My son sees both grandparents on a weekly basis BUT that’s because he goes to “daycare” at their house (2 days at my boyfriend’s parents and 1 day at my parents). My boyfriend’s family lives ~35 mins away so they only see him when they watch him during work or special events (bday, holiday, planned activity). My parents live closer and my parents (more
So my mom) sees him about once every 1-2 weeks outside of babysitting.

Also - if they live an hour away and are requesting weekly visits, I hope that means they are offering to commute more often than not. But I also think weekly visits are too much if they are constantly belittling you and pressing their opinions too hard.

My in laws live one town away. My partner is taking parental leave instead of me. He usually drops my almost 7 month old off with his parents for an hour a day while he goes on a run. He then will stay for a brew or dinner. So my son sees them maybe 5 days a week. My parents live 30mins away and I only have a couple of days off a week with my son so don't always take him to visit them as much as I should, maybe once every 2-3 weeks.
Because my in-laws see him most days without me they do say things like 'he likes it when you rock him like this' and stuff to me but I try to not let it bug me as they help my partner and they mean well x

Never. 😞 Well, more specifically my father passed away when I was 15, (my parents divorced when I was 6) my mom has never come to visit and rarely calls me. My husband's parents are in India so the best they can do is video chat on WhatsApp which we do 1-2 times a week.

My parents see my son every single day without fail (they live in the same village as us and we are very close). My inlaws (who also live in the same village) MIL visits once every 4-6 weeks and my FIL has seen him twice this year. Suits me tbh 😂

Growing up I saw my grandad every other week or so because he would drive down to see us. Saw my grandma maybe 3 or 4 times a year. My mum lives 2 hours away and tries to see my babies every 6 - 10 weeks

My MIL is a couple times a month. My mother a couple times a year. My FIL maybe once a year. My father has never met my daughter. 🤷🏿‍♀️

Every 6 months

Do you trust her to watch baby without you there?

If you can’t stand the in-laws, can you suggest they pick your child up for a couple of hours of quality time and then drop him/her back off and then you don’t really have to converse with them much?

My child’s grandparents doesn’t see her at all 🤷🏽‍♀️

My parents and In laws all live just over an hour from us, my parents see our children the most, at least once a month but usually more sometimes less, just depends really. My mil id say at once a month for sure (lately) sometimes a couple of times. My 9 year old wrestles so my parents and mil are at most of those tournaments. About 7 months ago we mostly stopped communication with my fil and step mil, but before that maybe once every few months most of the time, sometimes more during wrestling season.