Am i wrong for this?

It's your body your choice. Why is he so bothered?

This is SO WEIRD. Do not do anything you don’t want to do. This is borderline emotional abuse

How bizarre. Liking the feel on his skin could be achieved by press ons at home for that activity then you could remove them since you don't like them.

I can't function if my nails go beyond the end of my fingers so cannot imagine massive long ones.

also forgot to mention i have a 2yo and a 10 week old and it makes it even harder to change diapers and all that 😒

This is so weird, has he explained why he's so obsessed with you having fake nails??

Did you use to wear super long nails or is this a past obsession of his?

Damn I've read your comments OP and he sounds a bit obsessed to be fair like you say he's been hassling you your whole relationship about them even though you have said you don't like them from the beginning but that comment about how without them you look a child and you would look like a real woman made me raise my eyebrows a bit 🤨 like you have had 2 kids what part of that makes you seem like a child?!! And now he's sulking cos you won't do what he wants!! It sounds a bit like he's trying to change you into how he thinks you should be and it's you who has to deal with wearing them all the time plus looking after a baby. Stand your ground just because he's your husband doesn't mean you have to do everything he says especially when it makes you uncomfortable.

If he likes them so much, he can get them.

I get that he has a preference, however to act like a child when he doesn’t get his way is weird behavior! He needs to compromise with you, if you want to, and only if YOU want to! Press ons sometimes so you can take them off easily. If he’s that obsessed over it I would wonder if he’s fixating on it on someone else or porn.

Sounds like a fetish? You are NTA. This is an unfair thing for him to keep asking. If you want to, maybe you could offer to wear nail rings during dates or sex, but totally up to you. https://www.etsy.com/listing/1817986446/fingertip-nail-ring-full-cover-finger

I’d suggest an allotted time/day when you will wear them, like his bday or another special occasion you agree on together. He’ll have to compromise on the use of at-home press ons (so you can remove them easily) and then get his fantasy/fetish fulfilled during that specified time.

If he won’t agree to that, and continues to insists that you alter your body in a way that you have already stated you don’t want to do, he clearly doesn’t respect you.

he's an idiot and it's not like he didn't know what you were like before as you have been married 11 years? So you have been together a long time and he's still going on about it does sound a bit concerning to me. I've been with my man for over 20 years married for 13 and he'd never try and pressure me into doing something he'd know I'm not comfortable with. That's not what a loving partner or spouse would do. Just be careful that he doesn't start trying to manipulate or guilt trip you about it or threaten to go find someone else who is 'a real woman' 🙄 god just typing what he actually said makes me cringe 😖

Tell him to wear them if he likes them so damn much

Long nails with an infant is a CRAZY ask. If your kids were older and he asked for his birthday and he was willing to pay like okay fine I can deal for a week or two but with small kids is insane and weird. He needs to get a different fetish.

How does he react when you do have them done? Does he become weirdly obsessed etc? Or just a normal level or happy you’ve done it?

Sounds like a huge turn on for him but definitely a fetish. The fact it’s caused so many arguments over 11 years leads me to think this is much deeper/more disturbing than just a preference.

Have you noticed his reactions to other women who wear them? Does he become a bit weird around them etc? x

Long ones, hell no. Short ones, yes. Sit down and talk to him and tell him what you’re willing to do. If he doesn’t accept it then tell him that we’re going to go get his nails done and it’ll be the long ones he’s talking about. That way he can see what it’s like and then stfu about it when he realizes it’s hard to do things and uncomfortable.

I do gel polish over my real nails, they are longish but nothing crazy because otherwise they break. Can he compromise on the length? How long does he want them? It would be really hard to change diapers with super long ones. Also as someone who has had acyrlics and taken them off it does damage your real nails it's not really worth it to do it for like 2 weeks, you kind of get sucked in to keep doing it.

This is so strange. It’s one thing to ask that you do your nails but to be so adamant about the length and manner is crazy.
I used to wear those super long acrylics as a teen and in my 20s, and you wouldn’t catch me in them now.
He seems impossible to please. What difference does it make if they are press-ons? I’m all for trying to please our partners, and the press-ons every here and there would be a nice gesture but his demands on the specifics are ridiculous.

If he didn’t meet you as someone who likes wearing them, expecting you to suddenly change mid marriage is insane. He’s a weirdo and should consider therapy… and a mani pedi

My husband is the same way but we compromise by me getting them done somewhat long. He wants me to get stiletto type of nails and I already said a def no. He’s a little sad but likeI we can’t afford going every two weeks to get them done. He’s not upset over it. He does like weird colors but I only get those colors on his birthday or anniversary. Nails aren’t so bad to wear especially if it’s your own nail. I feel like if he was trying to change you into a completely different person -then no.


I disagree on what most people are saying about “he knew you before he got with you”. I think change is great, bc you always want to change things up, especially in a marriage (unless it’s for something bad). Spice things up and keep it fun for each other, it’s a good way to stay together forever.

If he likes them so much, tell him to wear them himself. You’re not a doll he can dress up to suit his preferences.

Has he always done this throughout your relationship or is it recent? If it’s recent, I would be wanting to discuss with him the reason why he’s suddenly so intent on you having long nails.

Just do the damn nails Girl 😂😂😂

He should get a matching set done ! (: same length same color, y’all can be long nail baddies together

Ask him to try the ones done at home for 24 hours. He assumes women make it look easy because it is easy rather than it's just some women deciding to put up with an inconvenience to look appealing

Try saying back to him 'I'll get them done if you will' 😉 if he's desperate enough for you to have them he'll probably think he's won until he realises how bloody inconvenient and impractical they are for the most basic of tasks

Tell your husband you want him to wear a fake 12 inch 🍆 because it 'makes him more attractive'. No compromises. 🤷‍♀️ it's 2025 your husband can't dictate to you what you can and can't wear/do/say or whatever I'd be telling him to do one personally

I swear most men don’t care or notice nails. This is weird

This is so bizarre. 🥸 most guys would be happy to save the money from not having to get their girls nails done. He’s obviously worried about your appearances. But like- ow? Does he not find you attractive? How much more can nails enhance your appearance? I think he’s being strange. (Also I’m a mom for 3 and I literally can’t do anything with long nails)

this is honestly awful !! what a weird man, this seems very controlling behaviour. it is absolutely your own choice and it feels very strange that he feels like he can hold this opinion and take it out on you - next time ask him to get his own long nails if he likes them so much . . . or an extendable 🍆 to make him “more attractive” . honestly f*ck him he sounds horrible

This is so odd. Is this like a fetish

Sorry what?🤣 what an odd request! He can wear them if he likes them so much 🙌🏻

This sounds incredibly controlling. I hope you are okay

It’s giving weird ick potential Ed Gein vibes

He wants to wear them or his side chick does

update: we've been fighting all day about it. i'm usually not one to talk about my problems but i'm so over it. i'm really wondering if we're meant for eachother it sure seems like he wants someone i'm not. now he's asking me to do my eyelashes too lol.

how stupid would it be to divorce someone over god damn fake nails? i hate this era we live in i wish they didnt exist. he's telling me he cant change what he likes and what he wants. i told him to leave if he doesnt like me or the way i look. im mostly mad he wont even meet in the middle with the press ons.

sometimes i think to myself thank god my man doesnt do some of the other things i see on here but then he does this crap and it seems like im part of the husband idiot club.

on top of that last time we had sex i told him my bust was 15/10 and today he goes "i wish mine was 15 too but because you dont do the things i want i cant bust that good. if you had nails it would be so much better" like who tf says that?? it hurts my feelings my husband is a dick

How did this even become a thing?? Did he date someone who had long nails or had a fling ?? Where has this come from that he’s become like this

Btw me offering solutions isn’t to say anything he’s doing or saying is normal. Just is fun to share that new options for nails exist! (The main target market is those who play instruments or sports but want nails!)

I pressed the wrong thing trying to scroll your not wrong at all it’s also a strange thing for him to be so upset over it he gives you the cold shoulder

This is bizarre.
Why would a guy care about fake nails or natural ones.

I call fake post or get rid of this dude.

Girl based on what you said, your man doesn’t seem like he likes you for you, it’s like he wants you to be his little dress up Barbie or something and he’s mad you won’t play along.

Sorry not you. The poster. And Jerk, bot perk.

U have a TEN WEEK OLD u cant take care of a baby and toddler with nails like that. Yes some women can, most cant. Especially if ur not used to it. Im like u. I wouldnt be able to function. Like having smth tied on your hands and in the way. Its ridiculous. Im sorry but i think its a combination of lame trends today u see on social media and in rl, and maybe porn. I think hes so used to seeing women dolled up fake like this that its become his standard. Its not right. The obsession IS weird. I understand making an effort for ur husband but this isnt that type of situation. He doesnt back down. He doesnt compromise. He doesnt appreciate ur effort. He doesnt understand ur pov. Its solely his obsession. Im glad ur strong, if u were someone else he could have easily given u a complex. Hes an idiot who doesnt see the real beauty n value in what he has got. I dont know what advice to give except dont compromise ur own values and comfort. Tell him this topic is becoming a deal breaker for u.

Ask him if he is willing to drop the nail obsession to save ur relationship. If he hesitates, u know how bad it is. So sorry ur with an idiot😩💔