Does TV Make Us Bad Parents?

My husband and I agreed that we should avoid having our baby watch screens until age 2—per every article I’ve read. However, I’m a SAHM and I need TV to survive, so my son absorbs some of that when I watch. I tried to justify it’s fine, he’s 4 months, he’s not “really” watching the TV. And then came the nights when husband was working, I had to get the dog’s dinner and get baby’s bottle ready. And so I’m like, “Whatever. It’s 10 minute of Bob the Builder”. And now my son likes to stare at the TV. He isn’t demanding TV, again he’s 4 months, but he gets mad when we put our hands over his eyes when the TV is on. I read watching TV is just as bad as secondhand smoke and I just need to know am I royally messing up my child?

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I follow a pediatrician on TikTok and she said that it’s not a big deal if they watch TV. We had the same thing happening with our daughter and that made me feel better. I mean anything in excess isn’t great, but he should be fine. The pediatrician said that you really don’t have to worry about that until 1-2 and only have to take away TV if they’re showing behavioral issues after watching it. Hope this helps!!

TV is definitely not going to make us bad parents, but the fact is that children can easily become attracted to it and overstimulated — even with shows like Bluey or Bob the Builder. There’s increasing scientific evidence showing why introducing TV at such an early age isn’t recommended. More studies suggest that around age six is a more appropriate time to start introducing screen time, and not before. At such a young age, any new texture, sensory toy, or dancing toy can be engaging enough — and unlike screens, those toys don’t trigger the kind of fast neurological responses that children simply don’t need at this early stage
I know is hard but we can help our little ones

I work from home too and depend on something playing on the TV for my son during the day. Usually just kids songs or something educational like bear in the big blue house or dora. Hes 18 months old and whined about the tv blocking too when he was around 4 or 5 months old but he grew out of it as he got older and understood toys more

I’d try other stuff like kid music (just audio) while strapping them in a high chair with a few toys (busy books, pop it toys, contrast cards). Mine responds well to Magic Steps Music https://open.spotify.com/artist/66IlKtLka6We38VOK2p2LB?si=PzAehLv0TaK9h07AByLhgA

I think it’s okay for your 4 month old to watch tv that way they can also start to see new things around him besides just people in front of him , I would say he is also able to get a little distracted because they do pay attention to the tv, my 2 toddlers will definitely pay attention to tv when they were tiny & my 3 month old loves to watch tv😂 so I think I your fine we do need a break too .

My baby said no it doesn’t haha. We watch bluey every day we are on a rerun of it aha

I have to remind myself that this time and choice is not about me.

I volunteer to do the dishes at night and have "Married at First Sight" or some YouTube videos running.

Maybe try to use audiobooks during the day? The Libby app is free with a library card and they have everything 😋

Just developmentally, I would avoid shows this young..

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?