Conversation with my husband

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and that your husband didn’t react in the way that you needed him to.

I hope you find a way to open up to someone if not your husband, you are love and you are important and your baby/babies deserve to have you around for a long long time. Hoping you peace and love ❤️

I'm sorry, this would frustrate me as well 😞

He definitely could’ve said a lot worse or said nothing

It sounds like he doesn't really know what to say or do other than try to reassure you. Have you spoken to a professional? The need to be seen and understood is valid, but if he's out of his depth, then he could be struggling too.

It sounds like you're extremely depressed to a point where it's not healthy, and a therapist or psychiatrist would be more helpful than just crying to your husband, especially if he's just offering the same old platitudes. He can support you but you also have to take the steps to help yourself, he can't do the work for you.

I do prefer hearing “I love and need you” instead of hearing “why are you like this can’t you just be normal” but that’s just my personal insight.

To me it sounds like he’s willing to hear you out. He just doesn’t want to pry. He probably knows that some days talking about it is hard. Sometimes processing the feeling while we feel it is difficult. It sounds like he’s there for you, just unsure of what to say or how to be the most helpful.

In situations like this there’s not much he can do for you. He already loves you you have to find your own happiness and you can’t rely on him to make you happy that’s not how it works. Get yourself some help. Get a psychiatrist and find your purpose. Find your happiness. ❤️

I totally get where you're coming from incognito!! I would have liked a hug in that situation as well, and if I were talking about not wanting to be here anymore I would hope my husband would take how I felt more serious and tell me its gonna be okay or ask how he could help. I don't doubt he cares but I can understand you needing more. Your feelings are valid!

It sounds like you just need more substantial support than what you’re getting OP, depression looks different for everyone. I am diagnosed with manic depression, so I get it to say the least. If you’d like some support please feel free to message me I come without judgment on topics of mental health, because I myself have a plethora of diagnosed mental health challenges myself ❤️ 8 of them to be exact.