4 month olds!

Couple of questions! First does anyone else’s little one only settle/sleep on you rather than you partner? My little girl still loves a contact nap but will only seem to do it on me not my husband no matter how much he tries she fights it. It’s the sweetest thing ever but also kinda exhausting when you’re the only one who can get her to sleep.

Second for anyone who’s little one uses a dummy any tips on how to stop them taking it out themselves. My little girl has figured out she can pull the dummy out or tries to put her hand in with the dummy and it comes out, she’ll start to moan and inevitably wake up if it’s not out back in. I’ve seen a few people say about taking it off them at this point which I feel awful about as I know she finds so much comfort in it but don’t want to constantly be on dummy watch during the night!

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For our daughter it seemed to be a boob issue (or lack there of on my husband's part 😂) cause she likes a nap on me but she LOVES a nap on grandma (her poor back) . We found she's more willing to nap on her dad if he's got a good thick jumper on, or he's knicked my bathrobe a couple times cause she really likes it.

For the dummy, you kinda just either put up with it, or take it away 😅😂 using her mits at night helps a little bit, and we've noticed it's only the first hour or two or happens then she stops caring cause she's knocked tf out 😂

My little girl did this for a while around the same age, especially for naps. Now she’s 5.5 months and will nap with my husband! I think it just takes time?

Also we’ve still not solved the dummy issue 🤣🫣 every blimming hour it comes out and she wants it put back in!!! I was thinking about getting rid of it x

Not much on the contact naps ,but we had a dummy addict and got rid just over a week ago. We use it to calm, not sleep. She never needs it (apart from once with her jabs). Honestly, it's not been easy and it still isn't perfect! But sleep is WAY better than waking up to put in that bloody dummy 🤣

Totally empathise with the contact napping! My LG is exactly the same - I thought by 4 months she might be happier to nap on my partner but apparently not!! 🥴

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Can someone pls help i keep making this post and nobody is responding

My boyfriend booked a trip for us to go to mexico for a week as my push present. I have severe anxiety leaving my 7 month old with my mom. I know she will be in good hands but she’s exclusively breast fed for the most part but accepts bottles just fine. i have all my pumping parts packed and will pump when baby normally eats but i don’t want baby to forget me or have latch issues when i return!! any mommas ever experience this?

Postpartum

I’m only 3 days postpartum (FTM) and already have extremely bad anxiety. I’m crying every night, as I think of another night of no sleep. My baby will not settle in his cot, he cries every moment we put him down unless in his chair rocker. So me and my partner are having to alternate after 3/4 hours of being awake with him downstairs. I’m trying everything to get him to settle. It’s a load of overwhelming stress. I’m 23, I was desperate for a baby and now I have one and feel completely useless. I miss it just being me and my partner.

When does it get better?

I was crying on the phone with the perinatal mental health team today and the lovely lady, bless her, kept assuring me that it gets better. I kept telling her I hope so because people have been saying that since having my LO and it just feels like it keeps getting worse. She assured me it gets better....

Night time routine

Heya, my 3 week old daughter is currently exclusively breastfed and I’m not pumping. Can anyone recommend the best way to share the load with my partner? At the moment I’m doing all the feeds/burbs/settling and my partner is sleeping through which obviously isn’t sustainable, I’m trying to work out the best way to get him involved. Any advice very much appreciated!

Rapid cool/ hot shot method

Sorry if this sound stupid but how are we doing the hot shot method?
Are we boiling the kettle and letting it cool a little before adding to hot flask? Then with the cool water do you boil the kettle and leave it to cool right down before putting into another flask?
My baby brain is fried trying to work out the easiest way!

Rant/WWYD

My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.