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Mother-in-Law Problems

In laws from hell

So am I wrong for feeling some type of way about my in laws? I’ve had issues from them from before I was pregnant which had to do with how they hate how my mom was asking me to fix them some food because it was the first time they were meeting my mom and she cooked a huge buffet for them out of the kindness of her heart and she asked me to fix them a plate and they later told my fiancé(at the time bf) that she was being a dictator by telling me what to do, ok so fast forward my sister and brother in law both planned to send my mother in law to live with me and my family because she became homeless and they didn’t want to take care of her which I found out months later from going through my fiancés phone but at the time I didn’t know so me and my mom both agreed it would be best if my fiancé(again bf at the time) should live with us too so it’s not weird with his mom living with us (p.s my fiancé at the time didn’t have a stable place to stay so he was staying with his sis) but keep in mind we were in the puppy love phase we weren’t together long so it was weird to have his mom with us and yes him too but I’m telling you, me and my fiancé were very much in love so me and my mom agreed to it, well it was a terrible choice because when my fiancé would go to work and make money to help us with bills his mom would not help cook, clean, do laundry, or even contribute with bills or food. She would sit all day, watch tv and annoy us by asking me and my siblings if we can cook something for her or ask why we do our laundry a certain way. We then decided it would be best that she leave because she was causing a strain on me and my fiancé’s relationship because she would lie about things to my fiancé and lie to me about my fiancé, oh while also asking my mom for money so much, my mom didn’t need to but she was the one to tell my mother in law it was time to go (yes it should’ve been my fiancé and he regrets not doing it) and suggested she go to my sister in laws because she had a stable place, job, and hellooo that’s her mom. Well this created a huge friction and my sister in law called my fiancé and cussed him out and said that we were horrible people and we are manipulative and more. She then proceeded to say he shouldn’t live with us because he just met me, which doesn’t make sense because she sent her mom to live with me when i “just met him” so he then went into depression for a while because they would trash talk about us to him and he would defend us and get talked over and hung up on till they stopped calling, flash forward again it’s been a few years (occasional calls and problems from them but don’t feel like explaining) I find out I’m pregnant, this was when they started bothering us by asking about how they should host the baby shower and only have me and my fiancé and them and none of my family and if I want my family to be there to host two baby showers, I obviously decline and they complain saying how I don’t care about their feelings and how uncomfortable they will be with my family being in the same place as them and saying they don’t want to pay for stuff because my family will be there, I offer them to help me and my family with the babyshower (also saying they don’t have to pay for food because we got it) and tell them I would love to have the help so they can be included and even text them what they would like to work on to then be left on read, that’s fine my family then works hard on the preparations for it and we invite them and my fiancé gets a call the day before from my sister in law saying she will not be there because she hates my family and that she’s not supposed to be a guest, that she’s supposed to be someone who hosts the babyshower. Ughhh when I tell you I was furioussss, well my fiancé cried that night but in secret because he knew I was pregnant and sensitive and he didn’t want me to worry about him so boom babyshower day, tell me why my in laws come and offer nothing but a small case of donuts. Ok so there is way more but atp if u want to here I’ll say more about it in the comments if anyone is interested in my rant😭