What did your parents/ in laws wants their “grandparent name” to be?

Let me first start this off by saying this question has nothing to do with my in laws, they have been so reasonable and normal about the name they want to be called by my son. I also know in the end, whatever any of the grandparents are called by him is going to ultimately be decided by him as he starts to talk.

Now the reason I’m posting and asking:

My parents are completely unreasonable when it comes to picking a name for my mom to be called as a grandmother. She has insisted for the past 10 months that my son has been born that she wants to be called mommom. I told her no because that sounds so much like mama when she says it and she “accidentally” calls herself mommy or mom to him too. She has laughed in my face and told me she pretty much didn’t care about the reason why I didn’t want her to use that name for herself. My dad and her have been doubling down on it and trying to really make it a thing and even told their friends and some of my family that they do it more now just to piss me off. I think it’s completely reasonable to not want my child’s grandmother to refer to herself as something that will confuse him and make him think she’s also mama or something. My mom is a huge narcissist as it is so this isn’t shocking but it’s just pissing me off and I needed to vent.

Yesterday I finally broke down and sent my mom a very stern and to the point text saying she has til Jan 1st to pick a new name or I’ll cut contact with them (they live across the country so it would be mostly phone and video calls that I would stop with her and my son) she had my dad reply to me calling me a b&$@! And asking why I “can’t let my mom have this one thing to make her feel special” 😂 needless to say I have cut contact with the both of them.

I’m pretty much just curious to see if anyone else’s parents insisted on a parent sounding grandparent name…

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