PP & Selfcare

I’m currently 9 months PP and I really thought I would’ve some what reverted back to my usual self care routine or even just some self care to feel like my normal self and, well pretty much like a woman again lol.
Does anyone have any advice ?
I’m pretty much slacking on even doing my brows so any advice is welcome. Tips and tricks included!

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Time is the issue hun!
I'm the same 2+years in and currently 36 weeks pregnant .
If important to you you need to make time when possible.
It may take a week to do everything I just do a bit when I can

My girl just turned 1 last week. Her dad’s been deployed for a while it’ll get better when he’s home. But, after I put her down for her first nap, I’ll go shower, get ready, do my skin care etc to make me feel a little more me

After 3 years I’m just slowly started to feel like my self again .

Um same, but for me I think it's actually pp depression. Which has been a struggle in its self and hard to wrap my head around because my son turns 1 next week. It's been a whole year later and there's still times when I can't even remember the last time I showered or washed my hair... Maybe 1 week? Dam, no maybe 2? So if you're at least trying to do your brows give your pat on the back sister.

Realistically, I would love to wake up, self care, drink my coffee all before little one wakes up. But I like my sleep, so I'll wake up just before be does. But normally I'll do skin care after I put him down for the first nap and nighttime skin care before I go to bed.

Thank you for all the advice! I thought it could be PPD too but I’m really not trying to go down that rabbit hole!
I try to do my skincare but it seems since getting pregnant my skin just isn’t the same! It’s way more sensitive. I even bought under eye masks just to try and within a few days of trying them I got a reaction so I just looked a lot worse than when I started.
My make up game is struggling too as alll my foundation or concealer is just the wrong shade for me now. A lot of people told me my normal skin tone/colour will come maybe afew months after birth but it’s been long enough and I’m still afew shades lighter lol

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