Partner recently gone back to pescatarian from vegan 😭

So my partner and I have been together for 6 years and we met doing vegan activism 💗
In the last year or so he’s slowly started eating eggs and dairy again, and now fish as well. I love him very much and we’ve just had our first child together but I’m not going to lie, it’s causing me to look at him very differently…. I think the worst part for me is seeing him eat dairy when I’m breastfeeding and how he can’t make the connection…. It actually disgusts me even further to think about the dairy industry since being a mother myself.

Last night he went to kiss me after eating a cream cake and I just couldn’t! He got offended but I said to him I just can’t have dairy on my lips, it disgusts me!

It wouldn’t be so bad maybe if we didn’t live together but having animal products brought into my home just really doesn’t sit right with me, I hate it!!

I just don’t know what to do, he won’t go back I don’t think as he’s always struggled with his weight and not being able to train as well at the gym but apparently since being veggie / pescatarian he’s able to keep weight on better and put on more muscle 🫣 so I don’t want to mess with his body image. But at the same time I’m so worried that I can’t see him the same anymore.

Any advice or input would be greatly appreciated 💜

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Hey lovely. I can completely empathise with how you feel - my partner isn't vegan and occasionally has bouts of saying he's going to try to be vegetarian and it never lasts and because he wasn't vegan or vegetarian when we met and because all of our meals at home are vegan and he has had no issues with raising our daughter as vegan I mostly am able to cast it from my mind but sometimes I really struggle with how I can be building a life with someone who's morals don't align with my own.

It's really tough but there are compromises he can surely make? Xx

Hello.

I am the none vegan in my relationship. In case that perspective is useful.

I wasnt vegan when we met. And when we started living together, i made the decision for everything in the kitchen to be vegan (easier to cook freely and not add something by mistake)
So i am plant based at home, but when out and about sometimea choosr a none vegan option.

I am not 25 weeks pregnany, and out rules have changes a little. I do no sometimes have cheese in for a toastie, anf havr had tuna too.
Obv this is a discussion. I have an area in the fridge. Everything is in sealed containers. And i use grease proof paper in the toastie maker.

I also have to for go kisses if ive eaten non dairy. Which im not offended by. I get it.

I think its possible tonhave different ideas and respect each others boundaries. I think its good courtosy as the person bringing in non vegan stuff, to try and keep the space safe for the other.

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