No daytime naps

Does anyone have any advice to get their baby to nap in the day? My baby is 9 weeks old and will barely nap in the day. If he does fall asleep it's never any longer than 20 minutes. It used to work taking him out in the pram or carrier to get longer naps but now he fights going to sleep! I've tried everything dark rooms, white noise, dummy. All that seems to work is holding the dummy in his mouth for 30 minutes -2 hours then still only does 20 minutes. This has been going on for the last 3 weeks. Would love to hear any advice !

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Could the dummy be too small for him? I had to size up my dummies fairly quickly with my kids
Also could be the shape of the dummies! Tommee tippee ones are more square, Nuk have round and flat ones, etc so it could just be that he’ll prefer a different shape
Best of luck!

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Out of interest how does he sleep at night? My little one is 6 weeks and is trying to fight naps now but I feel like she’s having slightly longer (very slightly 😂!) stretches at night now.

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My little girl was like this. Shes now 21 months and still refuses a daytime nap. We found baby wear the only way to get her to sleep. Have you tried increasing his stimulation? Lots of sensory things, music, colourful lights, watching fish, rattles etc.. it might help to tire out his brain and get him to sleep longer

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Hey Emily, I have this with my little one who is 6 weeks - refuses naps no matter how hard I try, and if I am successful it's in the carrier and I have to be constantly moving. We're getting about 8-9 hours out of him across the 24 hours as nightimes he's only doing 30-45 mins at a time. I've only had annoying advice so don't have anything good to share but did want to say he does have severe reflux so lying on his back is becoming more and more difficult, not sure if it's something to consider if it's the lying back that is their main issue?

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My son is 6 weeks old and we’re having the similar issue, if he drifts off without a dummy he sleeps a lot longer than with the dummy as when it falls out it wakes him up when he’s only been asleep for 15-30 minutes x and it also depends on what position he’s in… if contact napping, in his car seat he will sleep for a lot longer!

We’ve found that through the day if at home… tight swaddling with a blanket helps and then through the night his sleeping bag helps loads as his startle reflexes can also wake him up sometimes x

Luckily overnight we tend to get anything from 4-6 hours in a bit stretch but I also think that it could be due to the fact that he’s so worn out from fighting it in the day x

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Feed a top up after bottle I’ve been doing top ups and with a fuller tummy he’s sleeping longer stretches and having naps again! doesn’t have to be loads I offer 60 ml extra and if he has the full bonus if he has little bit no bother (is 7 week mid growth spurt I think)

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