Night weaning off boob / feeding to sleep

I’m currently trying to break the “breastfeeding to sleep” habit with my 10mo and finding it really tough. He’s been combi-fed (formula and breast) for quite a while now, but when it comes to naps and bedtime he will only settle with the boob. This means multiple wake-ups overnight and mostly boob/contact naps during the day so he can get a decent stretch of sleep.

He takes bottles of formula well, but he doesn’t associate them with sleep in the same way - if he’s tired he’ll often still fight for the boob after finishing a bottle. He can fall asleep in the buggy on walks, but the biggest struggle is at home (when we’re stationary) and overnight.

I’m starting to worry because he’ll be starting nursery soon, and it upsets me thinking about how they’ll manage his naps when he gets so distressed without the BF comfort.

Has anyone been through something similar or found anything that helped? I’d really appreciate any tips. Thank you 🤍

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No advice unfortunately. We are in the same boat and he won't even sleep for his dad! We exclusively breast feed but I am starting to pump so he can have a cup of milk before his sleep at nursery. My friend has managed to get him to sleep just in her arms so I know he can do it.

With my first we always contact napped at home and they had no issues getting her to sleep at nursery. I think they just get used the the nursery routine to be honest.

From talking to other mums with older kids they have all said that the last feed to cut is the one just before bed. The advice given to us is to feed to sleep initially and then just go cold turkey through the nights. Still comfort and soothe when they wake in the night but not feed. Most have said it took 3ish nights and then the baby got that there was no more boob or feeding during the night and stopped waking for it.
We are actually planning on starting our first night of no feeds tonight so fingers crossed by the weekend it will have worked

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