Anyone else scared of food?

My baby turned 6 months last week and we still haven’t introduced a lick of food. Granted, we both work full time with no help and we can’t pay for help currently because we are under contract for a home purchase. So with that said, starting foods has been sooo intimidating because I simply don’t have the extra bandwidth and I feel awful for it. Anyone else in the same boat? Please tell me I’m not a horrible mom because I’m fully aware that I’m stunting his development 😭

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Not horrible. Ours turned 6 months on the 11th and we’ve done purées maybe three times? It’s hard to get into it by the time dinner rolls around. We’re tired!

I would start mashing avocado & do that for 3 days. It’s not about your baby eating, it’s about them getting used to the texture & taste & learning to eat. If babies aren’t exposed to eating by 9 months, they will have a hard time eating
I’d just start small mama!

it can be very intimidating! my daughter just turned 6 months and we have been doing rice cereal/oatmeal for a least 4 days a week for breakfast and sometimes i mix in avocado or sweet potato for her to get different tastes! i also mix in her vitamin d and formula with it and it works great! she loves it! i have a 2 yr old also and she loves feeding her💖 my 6 month has also been showing huge signs of wanting food so shes adjusting great!

For starters you’re not a horrible mom at all. The fact that you’re on here seeking advice shows that you care.

Start small, get foods that are already soft and easy to mash.
We do bananas, avocado, and eggs when I don’t have much time to make her baby food.
Remember it’s not so much about getting nutrients from the food at this age it’s more so about teaching mouth to hand/spoon connection, helps motor skills, and prepares them to eat food when they do depend on food for their sole nutrition.

You got this mama! Baby steps, pun intended 😊

I second what said! As a first time mama who worked from home with my 1st I felt too overwhelmed navigating mama life and didn’t begin til almost 7m. I was nervous a lot. This time, with my 2nd, I work from home with her while toddler is at daycare but I have put so much effort into making a document that contains each family meal we cook with ingredients broken down into a table with how that ingredient should be adapted for 6m, 9m, 12m baby and so on from the info on solid starts. Today my not yet 6.5 y old had shredded chicken and brown rice in yoghurt, flattened snap peas, and hummus on toast for dinner. It took a lot of effort and pushing my anxiety away to get here

You aren’t a horrible mom for it. You know your baby better than anyone else. Introduce them to food when you feel they are ready for it. I introduced mashed potatoes to my son when he was four months old and he absolutely loved them. Now if he sees them on my plate he tries to steal them from me. Go with your gut on when you think is the best time to introduce foods. Mashed potatoes are perfect for when you’re first introducing foods to a baby. The texture is similar to baby food and you can even add breast milk or formula to them to help make it better for your little one.

I am so scared because my baby gagged when I gave him some textured puree I made myself lol

Yes! He is doing better now.

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