Want to go back to work

Am I the only one who wants to go back to work? Part time of course, but all I see is mums saying they want to be with their baby 24/7 and they’re scared to go back. Is it because they will be working full time?

I completely get it, it’s a natural maternal instinct which is why my baby doesn’t go to nursery yet. I don’t want anyone looking after her and I would keep her in bubble wrap if I could. Luckily when I do go back I’ve arranged for my younger cousin to basically be my baby’s ‘nanny’ on those set days, paid of course.

But I have a desperate urge to get back to myself. I try to chill out because I will never get these days back with her but I feel like if I find a nice balance I will be much happier and will feel less guilty when I’m home all day (don’t ask why I feel guilty, I couldn’t tell you)

I have OCD so I dunno if that has anything to do with it - the need for perfection all the time

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Working uses a different part of your brain compared to being a mum. For me thats something I enjoy and am also lucky to be able to be part time which is the perfect balance. We use nursery and that works for us.

I think its because they're getting so fun snd mum guilt is kicking in

Same i am lucky to work pt my son goes nursery pt everytbing is balanced cause i didnt bothrr with listening to people around me i cant stay at home forever it is not possible financianly and it is not good for my mental health dont worry about those who want to stay at home forever yoh dont know how strong their mental financial situation village etc etc is you dont even know if they are just saying for the sake of it or meaning it you just do what works for u ignore the background noice

I went back to work full time- it's hard because I don't get to see my little one as much, but I think it's so good for me too- I'm back to be my old self and have a break from being a mum and get to have adult conversations again- I'm a secondary school teacher and find my job easier than being a full time mum!. Also my LO likes nursery very much and his night sleep improved so much since he joined nursery so it's a win-win for us.

Too right - to get time to be something beyond just 'mum' and a 24/7 care provider. I felt exactly the same when my eldest went to the nursery at 9 months. I actually took the full year this time round as we could thankfully afford to, but in hindsight I probably would have gone back to work around the same time. Desperate to look like myself and not be covered in a slick of snot/sick/up to my eyeballs in poop for at least a few days.

It's not you at all. I'm going back to work part time next week & it's bittersweet. But, I'm really excited to go back & get into a routine with some normality.

I wanted to go back to work just to have abit of spare money and have a bit of time to myself but also wanted to stay home so now I work 6-10 4 days a week evenings when the kids are in bed I feel that’s the best of both worlds then ahah

Yeah I think that’s so good tbh x

I want both 😭 going back full time x

I went back to work full time 12 weeks pp and it did a world of good for my sanity I think. Now nearly 11 months pp and of course I want as much time as possible with my baby but I don't regret my decision to work

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NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?

Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Identity crisis?

Am I the only sahm who feels like they have lost their identity??? I don’t make money for my family, when I used to make great money. But I refuse to drop my under a year old baby off with strangers.
My husband works so much. But I have no control over bringing in money and I’m a control freak type of person! I feel l like I’m losing my grip because we are kind of broke, but day care would only eat up my income anyways! So what’s the point. I’m a workaholic and now I’m just a twitching bum.
I wish I could work from home but so far that’s a fake dream. I’m almost 9 months pp, and I just need to know these awful mood swings and depression will end soon! Send wine!

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭