Miscarriage

It’s been a month since I lost my baby and I’ve already had my first period since the miscarriage. Hubby and I are gonna try again but the thought of trying again makes me sad because I want my baby I lost. I can’t wait to have my rainbow baby. I just hate that I lost the baby. Is it normal to go through grief knowing that you did nothing to loose the baby then to think what if you did do something? Maybe I’m just overthinking. I just wish I had my baby. It’s so hard seeing pregnant women because that was me I would still be if I didn’t loose my baby. Maybe it’s the non alcoholic 0% beer or what if I ate something bad is what goes through my mind. What if I did something. Was it a boy or girl what did he or she look like? Ugh this is hard. Im venting sorry. Does miscarriage grief ever get easier? One week I’m fine then the next I’m crying for a whole week and depressed.

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Hello, there is nothing you could have done to prevent it. I was the same way when I had my first miscarriage, I had to look at it differently our bodies reject pregnancy if there is something wrong with embryo that means something could have been wrong with the baby. Never give up you will have your rainbow baby, I lost my baby April of 2024 the baby would have been born in November of 2024. I found out I was pregnant March 2025 and had my rainbow baby November 2025. It was like it was meant to be I just needed to wait a little longer. Don't give up I promise you that you will be rewarded ☺️

I waited until my period was back regular and we talked and decided to try again. I felt like you I really felt like I was missing something

Sadness around trying I totally get. I cried after our first time trying after my first miscarriage, it was hard because like you said I want the baby I lost. I had my first miscarriage in April and honestly I still find it hard to see pregnant women some days, other days it's easier. the grief changes some days I can handle it better, other it's still really hard.

I lost my first pregnancy last year in march & im currently holding my rainbow baby. I get the sadness of trying again cause you feel like you’re replacing something that you lost and the baby you lost can’t be replaced. I made a memory box for the baby I lost with scans, a letter and the pregnancy tests.

I started trying again instantly and got pregnant in may. Seeing that positive test will be hard and the first part of my pregnancy was very hard as I just felt like I was going to loose the baby again but I am so glad I pushed through the fear and the pain of trying again because I am so thankful for my rainbow baby boy

I had my miscarriage august 2024 and still today even with my rainbow baby girl in my arms I cry thinking about the boy I lost, I see other children the age he would have been and I get such an ache in my heart. I have the exact reason he passed and even knowing why doesn't make it easier to deal with the grief but with time you'll grow around it and it will still hurt but not feel as raw. I wish you a beautiful rainbow baby in the future and wish you the best for getting through this hard time x

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