Rude or normal 4 year old behaviour?

My mum told me that she was ashamed of him because he was being rude on the bus, saying he’s king of the world and would sit where he wants. I agree that’s not acceptable and he should sit where she tells him but I’m not sure if this is perhaps how many 4 year olds would act? He doesn’t get the bus often so was probably excited. She was very cross with him which I’ve never seen before. I don’t want to come down too hard on him but I also want us to be on the same page about how to respond to any challenging behaviour 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Bless you... It's hard as at this age they basically pick up everything from their friends at nursery /playgroups etc. It's about being patient and explaining everything in the way they really understand. I wouldn't say it's how many 4 years old would act. But no reason to be too harsh with him. If he sees this behaviour among his friends it might seem completely normal so depending on his peer group and how things are explained to him xx

I honestly think this is quite normal and he is really experimenting with how far he can push people before a consequence....he's building up bravery and will be taught what's brave and what's rude/unacceptable... My little girl says similar things, but I try to look at it through her eyes and say if it's a game, then we can play it at home, because, for example, the bus isnt an appropriate place for this.
Without sounding bad, is it possible that your mum felt a bit embarrassed, maybe he was being loud (a child), with other people present and it's exemplified the situation, when if he was shouting I'm the king of the world at a park....it would deemed as play ?
I don't think you have anything to worry about ! It it starts getting aggressive , rude, not listening or understanding then perhaps firmer boundaries are needed ...but for now, I think saying I'm the king of the world is fine lol xx

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