New people

I think it’s hard because a lot of people are really wrapped up in their own lives. There’s also a lot of judgment, which naturally puts walls up. Real connection takes time and energy, and many people either don’t have it or aren’t willing to give it. Add in past experiences, and your brain and body start protecting you, so connection doesn’t come as easily.

It is hard! 😖

Girlllll. I swear.

You are NOT. EVEN. LYING though!!! It can be so frustrating and I got really depressed about it for a while not too long ago. You know what I’ve realized lately…for myself at least, though….?

The “click” isn’t sooooo elusive because it’s hard to find other women I connect with. I’m pretty outgoing & friendly. I get along with, and I like, most other moms that I meet!

The tough piece (imo) is the timing/desire to/effort/HONESTY.

I often go out and about and come across another person I’m interested in trying to befriend. Or vice versa, someone clearly expresses interest in befriending me. And rarely there’s just clearly not any chemistry there to work with.

More often than not though, it just boils down to one person (or both) is just not in the right frame of mind to let the actual “click” happen.

Because the biggest part of the “click” isn’t actually the chemistry itself. But letting that chemistry….flowwww….naturallyyyyy!!! 😂

If you connect but it’s not

effortless then it just never sticks. For me at least.

If I’m struggling it’s usually that I’m trying too hard or being guarded and not just being myself.

Just focus on being the most uncut, raw, genuine version of yourself. Be intentional but don’t force anything!

Grounding myself like this has really widened my success rate to “click”.

And recognizing when others only hold space for surface level/small talk/drama/gossip. So I’m not wasting my time, since I look for more in a friendship than that.

I try to be honest with others too if I’m not with whatever they got going on and just politely keep it moving.