potty training help!! i feel like im losing it😵‍💫

my daughter (4) has been potty training since december of last year. peeing is easy, straight forward she got it quickly. however, shes been pooping in her pants consistently for about a week now. no warning, no letting us know that she pooped in her pants (we end up smelling it, she doesnt even seem bothered by it), nothing. at the start of our potty training journey, she would have accidents but always told us and most of it would get in the toilet. now she just empties it into her underwear. help!! please!!!

also tips on how to get poop out of underwear would be great, but honestly i just want to throw them all out 😔

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I don’t have much advice, just solidarity. For poops in the underwear, if it’s more solid I wipe as much out as I can with baby wipes and put it straight into the washer. Tbh if it’s softer, it just gets chucked in the trash. Wasteful? Maybe, but we all have our limits lol

My 1 & 2 year old daughter’s are fully potty trained. If you want some tips & ready for full commitment depending on your schedule send me a message.

I wash the underwear out in the tub. And scoop the poop into the toilet . But unpopular opinion, I forced my toddler to sit on the toilet until they peed or pooped like 4 times a day. I would try the naked method too, I also did that. Usually they show warning signs before they poop, like for instance mines will get quiet , go into the other room etc. or have a specific time when they poop like around lunch time I would look for the ques.

I’m doing the naked method and my daughter will pee no problem. She begs for a diaper when she needs to poop but I refuse. Sometimes she tries to go into the other room. I just remind her throughout the day that pee pee and poop go in the potty. It’s been working. We haven’t moved to undies yet.

No good advice other than to say eventually she'll get it..... but it could possibly be a fear thing..... my 7yr old has an irrational fear of the toilet and encopresis so she poops her pants on the daily......

Rinse the undies saturate it with a stain remover spray and let sit for the spray to work until the next wash. I haven’t thrown out any undies! I’m able to get them stain free as long as they’ve been sprayed and pre-treated. And do you notice a trend w the poops? Like is she a morning pooper? My boy poops in the morning so I’d make sure to ask and prompt him does he need to poop. He’ll say yea and go if he needs to. It’s easier when they poop on a schedule

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