Going out with potty trained toddler?

My daughter’s now potty trained and, honestly, it’s put me off going out.

When she was in nappies, it just felt easier. Now I feel like I have to plan everything around toilets. I know people carry a travel potty, but it just seems like another thing to carry. And if they suddenly need to go on a busy street, where do you even take them?

How are you all using a travel potty in real life? We usually use Ubers and public transport when going out.

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Hiya,

Just want to say I felt the same with my son. We took the my carry potty which yes was very annoying to carry but luckily I had a baby so I just put it in the pram. Going before you leave the house, after every meal and utilising any opportunity you can in a comfortable space helps.

My son has been almost potty trained a year now and he doesn’t go as often. Just like as adults he’s learnt to go at home and slightly hold when out. I can’t tell you the last time we’ve been in a ‘compromising’ situation.

It’s only when I actually forget to get him to go before we leave 🤦🏿‍♀️

Yes just to echo everything Melanie said - it feels likes it’s going to be a lot harder than it actually is! We used the carry potty for quite a while because my daughter was happy using it - we just used to go to the baby changing/ disabled toilet so there was enough floor space. We only have ever had one accident being out and that was after nursery pick up trying to do a quick whizz round the supermarket.
Just build it into the routine, quick wee before we get our shoes and coat on etc, and maybe you do a wee same time. They pick it up fast. And worst-case scenario just bring a spare outfit and some wet wipes. You’ll look back in a couple months and realise it was ok xx

We've been known to use the travel potty behind a car door/baby's pram in the zoo car park - sometimes needs must

A bit different for you but we don’t carry a potty around. She has one in the car and tries before we go and then just keep knowlage of the closest toilet. She’s pretty good at holding until we make it to one

Initially we took her out wearing her nappy pants and as soon as we arrived where we were going went straight to a toilet, she never went in her nappy but it just gave us a bit of peace of mind x

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