Annoyed with nursery
Please hear me out as I am fully understanding of policies. My son has been going to nursery since June and after a long period settling in now really enjoys it. On Monday I sent him in and mentioned he had 2 teeth breaking through (1 being a molar) causing him a dribble rash. Within 15mins of leaving and still driving I get a call and eventually a few hours later was asked to pick him up. Nursery were adamant it was HFM (despite no other symptoms) and he was not allowed back for 3 days. Checked by a dr who has confirmed it is not HFM. He has not been in nursery all of this week, the longest he’s not been. I’ve had to take unpaid leave from my work and my husband a days holiday to allow me to work a few hours. We still have to pay over £160 this month including the missed days. I wouldn’t be annoyed if this was the 1st time. However last month we sent him in fine, 15mins later had a call to pick him up as he was ‘poorly’. He wasn’t. last month we paid over £140 including a missed day. It’s not even like they’re giving it a few hours, I’m being rung within minutes having sent my child in perfectly well. I wouldn’t if he wasn’t well and would be more understanding if he had been in for say 3+ hours. I can’t afford to keep having unpaid days off work or to be paying nursery fees when he isn’t in and it defeats the whole point of why we’ve opted for childcare if I can’t work
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I work in a nursery and there is no exclusion for HFM unless it is written in their own individual policies that you would have read and signed. I hope you get some form of apology from them for making you keep him off for 3 days.
each setting will have their own policy and rules around what is or isn’t a reason for not allowing a child to attend. i understand it’s stressful, but their priority is keeping all the children as healthy and safe as they can and if it’s written in their policy that HFM means they have to stay home, and they suspect it on a child they have to stay home. However, I will say if you had confirmation from a doctor you should be able to take written confirmation in and they cannot exclude, i’d be questioning them if that was the case! they get absolutely nothing out of your child going home so I wouldn’t be assuming that they’re doing it for no reason, schedules are made well in advance and no one will be leaving immediately after opening for example just because one child was sent home. they have to follow policy and procedures and protect the welfare of all children attending even if that means sometimes sending your child home xx
I'd move him. If I was told by the Gp that it wasn't HFM he should be allowed back and not be charged, etc.
I would've been livid! I'm so sorry, because in today's economy, 1 weeks earnings is a whole lot!
Usually he would be allowed at nursery even with HFM so long as he doesn't have a fever and is well in himself and I think blisters have dried. Check their policy !
What bullshit ! Especially if a doctor has checked him over.
I get your frustration if he'd thrown up within 15 mins of you dropping him off, sure. But how is he "ill" what symptoms is he displaying? Even if he has a temperature they tend to leave them 30 mins and see if it goes down.
When I'd seen a doctor and they'd said it wasn't HFM they let him back in the next day, as why else would he need to stay home?
I know they have to protect all the other children, but who can tell in 15 mins without a temperature that a child is ill?
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Please hear me out as I am fully understanding of policies. My son has been going to nursery since June and after a long period settling in now really enjoys it. On Monday I sent him in and mentioned he had 2 teeth breaking through (1 being a molar) causing him a dribble rash. Within 15mins of leaving and still driving I get a call and eventually a few hours later was asked to pick him up. Nursery were adamant it was HFM (despite no other symptoms) and he was not allowed back for 3 days. Checked by a dr who has confirmed it is not HFM. He has not been in nursery all of this week, the longest he’s not been. I’ve had to take unpaid leave from my work and my husband a days holiday to allow me to work a few hours. We still have to pay over £160 this month including the missed days. I wouldn’t be annoyed if this was the 1st time. However last month we sent him in fine, 15mins later had a call to pick him up as he was ‘poorly’. He wasn’t. last month we paid over £140 including a missed day. It’s not even like they’re giving it a few hours, I’m being rung within minutes having sent my child in perfectly well. I wouldn’t if he wasn’t well and would be more understanding if he had been in for say 3+ hours. I can’t afford to keep having unpaid days off work or to be paying nursery fees when he isn’t in and it defeats the whole point of why we’ve opted for childcare if I can’t work
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