Im so exhausted

Sorry this is long. I have a 5 year old. Shes wonderful. Extremely smart, funny, silly, and very creative. We will be in the process of testing for gifted. She complained about school because as she said she didn't use her brain. She wasnt challenged. The teacher gave us little readers to read at home. Now shes doing 'decodable' books. (It usually has a reading rule in it. Last week was ch and it talked about chess). So thats her homework. The other kindergarteners homework is doing letters and sounds, numbers and sight words. Hers is the book and like 8 flashcards of different reading rules (ch, sl,gr, gh, ph, -nt, -nd, etc). So nothing too crazy. They are doing 1st grade reading with her and another kid and reading the decodable at school with a para. They all say she does great and never complains and tries and does amazing. Well we get home and get to homework and its constant crying and fussing and 'i cant sound it out! I dont know that word! I dont know what it says'. Today it was just she didn't want to. I said when you are ready we will read and i sat there. She started hitting me, kicking me, and then punching me which is new. I ignored it all otherwise I would've lost my shit. I said why are you doing this. It's not okay to hurt people. Then dad got home and he said he won't tolerate her hurting his wife and now she gets to do her homework with him. She cried for a few minutes while I went outside for 5 minutes. Came back in and she was done. Like wtf?!
We are in behavioral therapy and idk what to do anymore. When shes in that state thers no talking about feelings or anything. I just sit with her while she runs through it. Im just tired of being abused by a 5 year old but idk what to do anymore.

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