I need help with how to deal with my one year old and his behavior I’m at a breaking point

I honestly think your partner isn’t being very supportive my boy is one too and he’s started to have meltdown and slap aswell and I put him in his play pen and tell him no and let him cry in his play pen and eventually after about 5mins he calms down and just plays with his toys and I’ll leave him in there until he’s okay again. Stay strong and put your foot down don’t allow him to hit you as much as it’s easier said than done and have a serious convo with your partner about it all because he should be helping you with this too. X

My husband and I have very different tolerance levels . I say no once , second no followed by consequence . Depending on age and situation. My daughter is 20 months and she’ll follow instruction and listen very well to me . She’s not responsive to his “No’s” whatsoever . He’ll say it a million times never follows up sometimes will chuckle in the middle of a no so that’s confusing somewhat . Rarely he’ll put her for time out in her crib but as soon as she starts screaming he takes her out again. It is a tough situation you’re in . Only advice I would have is be stern and follow through . He may bite daddy like that but show him he won’t be biting you . And if you face extreme opposition and have worse than no support which would be ridicule to your new rules then consider leaving . One day they may be “rough” to the wrong people and the consequences aren’t going to be what they’re use to .

Your husband sounds horrendous. Do you seriously want to be with a man like that? Thinking it’s funny to teach a young child to pinch nipples? Imagine your son going to nursery, preschool etc. he sounds like a really crappy father, I’m sorry to say. Do you actually lay down the law with him? Or does he not respect you enough to take you seriously?

Ps putting a kid in a playpen in not abuse, that’s ridiculous (unless it’s hot hours with no interaction which I doubt this is)

The husband is the problem in this situation. He sounds neglectful lazy and abusive and he’s teaching your son to abuse you with him. Yelling, especially at a toddler is just downright LAZY parenting. And anyone who argues that fact is pissed off because they’re getting called out. None of us are perfect, we all yell once in a while but if that’s all he does it’s not only lazy but borders on abuse. (It causes the same biochemical and physiological response in children that other forms of abuse do.) I don’t call for divorce often but I would absolutely make a plan for yourself so you feel empowered to leave him if you need to.

I can see the over lap from another post here. Your husband is the issue, honestly.
That’s the ONLY way we discipline our 14mth old right now because they don’t understand much else. No isn’t a word understood yet. But being stopped and redirected is. Which is what the playpen does. It doesn’t make you abusive or treating him like a dog.

Heck no, your husband is acting like another child, I started putting my babies down at like 4 months old for pulling hair & would say “I don’t have to play w/people who hurt me”, of course when they were little I’d give them appropriate items to pull/chew/throw according to their current milestone needs, but I’ve been setting my own boundaries since the beginning with them bc I’m no one’s punching bag. When they were 1 & going through the throwing & hitting phase it took the entire household to set boundaries, my 16y & hubs had to start telling him they weren’t going to play with him if he wasn’t going to play nicely/properly too, bc before it was mostly me bc I had enough hair to pull or the way I held him made it easier to bite my chest, so it wasn’t as repetitive for them until he got older, but they, especially teen, caught on quick, teen would literally say “I won’t let you hurt me” & go to his room instead, which of course our toddler didn’t like, so after many times he started