Mum guilt

I wouldn’t have been able to sleep either

I would go get him could the nan jusy stay there and pick him up every time he needs it

Please don’t feel awful. You’ve had three sleepless nights and saying yes to help is actually a really healthy thing to do. Your baby is safe, loved, and only 5 minutes away. Getting some rest will help you be the best version of yourself for him.

I let my bb stay at my moms 1 time at 4 mo and after that I feel she was traumatized and I came and got her at 6 am she wouldn’t sleep with out me

Don’t feel awful! You deserve a break and a night off. Just remember little man is safe and sound and probably having the time of his life, and hes only 5 minutes away.
Get some sleep and rest up!

Just have her stay at your house and play night nurse for the evening. That way if your baby needs you, you’re there.

My girl loves her Mimi has been having sleepovers since she was 4 months old and I moved back in to now and she’s 4 and she leaves my house for a weekend at a time with her house! Nothing wrong with that ESPECIALLY if you guys need the time cause if yall are crazy and sleep deprived the he can and will feed off you’re energy

This would feel too much of a jump for me too soon and my baby is 9 weeks but everyone is different.

Right now if we have a bad night we come up with a plan the following night to split it. My husband gets up for work at 5am so that generally looks like me going to be around 6/7pm and us changing over around 11/12 so we’re both getting a few solid hours which seems to make all the difference. If I was happy with my mum helping I’d feel a lot more confident with her staying here and having that split with her ☺️

I looked into therapy it has helped try it 🩷 don’t let them force medicine on you bc a really good therapist will get to the bottom of where your mom guilt is coming from you will feel so much better 🩷🩷

This is a totally normal feeling. Help doesn’t mean leaving them with someone overnight. At 3 weeks help is someone taking them for a walk in the day so you can have a shower and a nap. Or them coming to stay with you and getting up in the night with them. I would’ve felt the same as you!

Mine are 5 & 16m and have still never slept out at anyone else’s house!

3 weeks is very young to be sending them away for the night. I’d have had nan stay at my house to do the night wake ups - especially as now you’ve been awake feeling guilty about it you’ve not had any sleep anyway so was kind of a pointless exercise as you’ve just had another sleepless night.

There’s nothing wrong with this, you need to rest so you can look after him properly if you think about it what you have done is what’s best for everyone so you can recuperate

Don’t feel bad, look after you or you can’t look after your baby. If I had been offered that chance I would have absolutely taken it up!