Formula guilt

I was absolutely able to breastfeed but my baby had a bad latch so it hurt really bad to latch her on to me. I started pumping and would get so much but then my husband went back to work and I couldn’t find time to pump as much so my supply dropped to where I was only getting drops at a time. I feel so much shame and guilt around formula feeding because on social media all I hear is how moms are selfish if they use formula. My question is has anyone else felt like this? Is there any way to get over the guilt?

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I felt like this as well. My baby also didn't latch and breastfeeding became stressful for us both. I tried pumping which stressed me out cause I'm a H cup and could barely hold the pump right long enough to get milk without spilling and wasting it. Then I found out baby had CMPA which meant I'd have to change my whole diet so she wouldn't have allergies. In the end, I decided that my baby being fed and nourished me being my best mentally, physically and emotionally for her was more important then trying to fit society's version of the "perfect" mom. Breastfeeding is not the only way to raise a happy and healthy baby. She has reached every milestone with the CHN so far and even the nurse said she is thriving! So please don't feel bad, you're doing what's right for you and your baby 😘

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