Can anyone offer me reassurance?😪

It's currently 4:35am where we live, I've been up since 2am with my toddler (2years9months) who has vomited 5 times.
I'm not sure what it could be, whether food poisoning or a stomach bug, but he's exhausted and has finally fallen asleep.

I'm just really shaken up and don't think I'll sleep tonight. I'm 37 weeks pregnant, sitting on my birth ball next to his bed just watching him and listening for signs he may be sick.


He woke me up over his baby monitor at 2am, I just heard him coughing and spluttering and thrashing around in his bed, it gave me such a massive fright. I don't mind vomit so much, like physically I'm not someone who's bothered by vomiting and ill happily catch it in my hands, but him being unwell just gives me SO much anxiety, and I'm already a hormonal mess atm.


It's so typical that it happens tonight as my husband has a really important day at work tomorrow. Usually he works from home but he has an important meeting in the office tomorrow that he can't miss. He's been up helping me since 2am but I've told him to go back to sleep now. Now I'm just sitting here full of anxiety. Can anyone reassure me, give advice etc?

He started being sick at 2am, again at around 2.30, 3, 3.30, 4.15. He's just completely conked out asleep he's exhausted. He's refusing water, he took one little sip after the 2nd bout of sickness and just threw up again. I have it here just in case of course. I've had to change the bedding, his clothes twice, my clothes, we have several towels dirty too. I'm so overwhelmed and anxious 😪


And he's been sick before obviously but just never so much in such a short space of time.

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My son was like this when we caught norovirus :( watch for signs of dehydration like less than 6 wet diapers a day, no tears when crying..

If they can't keep milk OR water down, you can probably get prescribed zofran to stop nausea and give him space to recover and drink well again. We headed up to ER because how late it happened with us, I got sick within 12 hours of being near him and it went through the house.

Baby WILL be okay, but it's still distressing to watch them go through that all :( hopefully it's just a small bug and that was all the sick getting out! But good job doing your due diligence and considering when to go in. An Urgent Care or a call to pediatrician might work too.

We just managed through with zofran and used Liquid IV to stay hydrated. Did Pedialyte popsicles if he wasn't able to eat. My toddler threw up a dozen times before we took him in to ER and it was consistent over a few hours, thankfully yours sounds less severe! Stay healthy! Hope it passes so soon 🙏🏼

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My daughter was like this a few weeks ago but it was because of all the things she ate. Her stomach was not going for it I believe.
If you can, give him some electrolytes not water. He’ll just keep throwing up. Do the BRAT diet. There’s really no reason for a hospital visit UNLESS he has a fever.
You can throw some potatoes &/or onions in his socks. Some people don’t agree with it but you can have him sweat out whatever it may be. Just bundling him up & putting covers on him. It knocked out anything I ever had. I also have a remedy for when it’s the sick time of the year. I can post the recipe but it doesn’t seem like it could help here. It’s more for runny nose, congestion & coughing.

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Try giving the baby some seltzer water or some warm tea can settle the stomach. If he can take atleast 3 sips it's a win boo. Idk if you open to it or not but kids peptobismol tablets can help

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when this happened to my daughter i was advised to rotate pedialyte. a tablespoon every 5-10 minutes. after an hour 1 oz every 10 minutes until they can keep it down. From there give them tylenol. (I use genexa, it’s a little more “natural” safer for kids) they’re usually good after that. I just watch for fever!

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Awwww mamma! Soooo many things suck at once! And at 37 weeks and no hubby
So can you rope in any cavalry to help?
Is your toddler still breastfeeding? If not TV on his fave show and sips of water non stop
Anyone else feeling sick? If not hopefully just food poisoning or getting used to his tummy and its isolated. This is normal and common for this age but if u feel him getting dehydrated, ofc see a Dr
Once ur hubby is done, he can help more!
This is all temporary but understandably soooo much harder at 37 weeks!

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So sorry this is happening. If you have ginger and fennel seeds you can make him a tea. I usually low boil them and then pour my son’s cup to around the half way mark with room temp water to mix with the tea and sweeten it with maple syrup. That will help settle his stomach. Once it’s settled he may stop refusing water. I understand you’re anxious but you definitely need some sleep yourself so if you have any kind of magnesium or relaxing tea, I suggest you use it for you and try to get some rest.

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Oh bless you all, what awful timing! He’ll be absolutely fine, just keep calm and keep doing what you’re doing! It’s awful but if it’s a bug you should be past the worst part now if the time between sick episodes is slowing down 🤞

Keep him drinking clear fluids and don’t too much worry about food until he feels a little better, his tummy will feel a bit delicate! You could get some oral rehydration solution if he’s really dehydrated, just offer it on a spoon or in his water bottle, most are suitable for kids but do check.

Make sure you’re as vigilant as you can be with hand hygiene etc today in case it’s a bug but it’s likely you won’t be able to avoid it if it is understandably. If that’s the case then rest up, drink up and call your midwife / doctor if you’re struggling!

Also, wash anything that’s been made dirty on a hot wash today to kill any germs.

Hope you have a better day than night 💕🤞 Try sleep when he naps today if possible too xx

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Only time this has happened to my kiddo, I panicked and took him to the hospital. ONLY because he had just been in hospital and diagnosed with RSV and Croup.

So when he just randomly started projectile vomiting, it caused alarm. He couldn't keep water down either. 4 times he threw up in llike 20 minutes. Another reason I panicked.

We sat in the paediatric ed for around 2/3 hours. He drank a bit of juice and had a hydrolite iceblock and we monitered his out put. He was diagnosed with gastro on top of his RSV and croup.

It was a crumby few days for my swet boy.

Viruses suck and the anxiety they cause can be awful, especially since we have to let them run their course. He will be ok.

Panadol or nurofen as needed; keep hydrated however you need to (hydralite ice blocks, lemonade ice blocks, water, watery fruit like watermelon (avoid citrus) or cucumber) and offer dry food to settle his tummy like ginger bikkies or plain rice.

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As long as he has consistently wet nappies then he isn't becoming dehydrated from the vomiting.

If he starts having loose bowl movements, this goes on for several days, his nappies become dry, you notice blood in his vomit (which will likely just be from an irrotation in his throat due to throwing up), he spikes a fever close to or over 40*, has a fever that won't go down after panadol/nurofen or it persista for a few days, then take him to a GP, urgent care or the hospital.

He is likely fine and it's just a yucky viral tummy bug that needs to run it's course.

I hope he gets better soon and that you don't catch it.

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Thank you everyone for all the helpful comments, I really appreciate it, it definitely helped calm my nerves ❤️ I am still feeling anxious but it's easier to deal with in the daytime. He was sick a couple more times but not for 3hrs now and he said he was hungry so I gave him a plain slice of toast which he ate. He's managing to sip some water here and there too, I'm just praying he keeps it down now and counting down the hours until my husband gets home from work 😪

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