Health Visitors!

Honestly I hate my health visitor. My son has a suspected milk allergy like my first born and when I mentioned it to her she said there is no correlation between siblings having a milk allergy which yeah fair enough there might not be but even my midwife agreed with before she discharged us.

So instead of helping me get the right milk and diagnosis for him her favourite answer is “Oh it’s just reflux.” Which I know for a fact isn’t as we have tried everything we can for reflux and none of it’s helped. Been doctors last week who agreed with me and were waiting to see the paediatricians and dietitians after having a referral done by the doctor x

aww he looks so healthy and happy bless him!🥹 the last time i had my health visitor out my son was hungry and she wanted to weigh him and measure him before his feed, he was not happy about being hungry and naked so when he finally got his bottle he gulped it down. she kept speaking to me and before i knew it the bottle was finished and i hadn’t had the chance to burp him half way through so when he burped which was a big one he ended up taking up the whole bottle which he’s never done and hasn’t done since but she proceeded to tell me, a new first time mum if he does it again to let her know as he may have something wrong with his stomach and need surgery! i’m sorry pardon?? she had me panicked but i knew deep down it was because he was so hungry and drank it so fast. she made me feel horrible for it

If you don’t mind me asking, how much does he weigh?

At the start of my breast feeding journey with my 14 week old, I was told they go by formula fed babies (guessing most women choose formula in my area I’m not sure) but because my baby lost 8.1% of his birth weight, and gained but then dropped another two times after, I was referred to the feeding team as he was also thought he could be tongue tied. At the feeding appointment, he was weighed and gained weight and then he was seen for prolonged jaundice where he was weighed again and luckily gained it. By 10 weeks I think, he was weighing 11lbs. I was told to eat things with oats in too like hobnobs, porridge, nuts and flapjack as they’re really good for breast feeding, I was even told to eat at night but I couldn’t think of anything worse😅

I do think it’s the HV that are older that tend to be the ones to put downers on the mums rather than the younger HV for some reason. They also talk to you like you’ve not had a baby before x

I had a HV say my son was ‘fat’ and needed to put him on a diet because he was on the 98th percentile but failed to acknowledge that he was in the 99th percentile for height meaning his weight was perfectly fine and if he was in the usual percentile for weight he would have been underweight. I have yet to meet a HV that I like.

I often feel Some HV ideologies are personally influenced rather than clinically approved. I quite enjoy telling then no you are an educated professional yes but I am most educated when it comes to my child.

I was told to wake my child every 2 hours to feed them......nope I feed on demand and my child signals when they are hungry 😑

co sleeping was another thing which I refused to refrain from.

follow your gut and instinct just like Google you have to sift for relevant info.

I find the older HV are worse.

My 7 month is 4th percentile for weight; started on 75th percentile, he is happy and healthy. He feds every 3-4 hours (EBF) and is content after the feeds. Everytime I see the HV at the drop in clinic they tell me I'm not giving him enough and I need to formula feed. I go to a feeding clinic with midwives due to the HV making me feel like I was not enough. They tell me he is absolutely fine, he is putting on weight, weeing and pooing fine and is content. Even the midwives turned their nose up at the HV.

Everyone’s health visitor seems really concerned about their babies weights whilst the 2 I’ve seen couldn’t care less 🙈 the first one was really nice but her priority was for me to go to baby groups that were 3 miles away when I don’t drive and didn’t particularly want to go to. The second one was when my LG was 3 months old and hadn’t been taking bottles for 3 weeks and I said I was quite concerned about her not eating enough and she just went on about weaning but emphasised not to wean until she’s 6 months old. I was like great, I won’t, can we address her not eating right now but nah

My little girl is 4 months old and was born early due to being small below the 3rd percentile and my latest HV came to weigh her and emphasised not weaning until 6 months then weighed her and plotted on her chart and then told me she’d jumped up 2 centiles in 3 months and they don’t want her going up anymore so when I questioned her and said well what happens if she does she went “ah I don’t really know tbh” like surely they want her to go up centiles as she was born when she was because she was not meeting the centiles but she’s coming back on Thursday to reweigh her because she wasn’t happy 🤯🤯