I really hate to come out here and tell my business about what’s going on with my life in my kids, but I had no choice

I just came back from a parent teachers conference meeting and they telling me that my second daughter, who just turned eight about a week ago that she barely know how to read and she has speech problems… I already feel like shit because it’s not that I’m doing my job. It’s because I worked a lot, and and every time, me and my first oldest daughter, trying to teach you how to read, she gets insecure and thinking that we making fun of her, but we’re not!! I felt like a shitty mother I don’t know what to do.

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Don’t beat yourself up. The fact that you’re worried and trying already shows you’re a good mom. Some kids just learn differently or need a little extra support. Maybe the school can help with reading support or a speech therapist. Sometimes early help makes a huge difference. Just keep encouraging her and making reading fun instead of stressful. She’ll get there.”

I'm really get on the teachers to help with this. If this conference just happened it's almost the end of the school year they should have been saying something a while ago.

Don’t feel like a shitty mother! Kids learn at their own pace. It’s not your fault. Maybe set up a meeting with the teacher and see what the school has to offer her to help her get to where she should be.
My daughter is 7 - she’ll be 8 this year. She also has trouble with reading and spelling. I met with her teacher and we were able to get her the extra help she needs. She gets 1 on 1 help 2-3 times a week during school and she stays after 2 times a week for more help. It’s helped her a lot! She’s still not where she should be but she’s getting there! Also read to her at night or anytime you can. Have her read with you. Sound out words together, etc. Always encourage her to read and sound things out and praise her for what she can do!!

Honestly you aren’t the only mother having that issue try the app ello for reading as well as reading.com and starfall. The teacher should have expressed that concern months ago they dropped the ball. Sending hugs 🤗

Look into the programs her school may offer for extra help like tutoring or Title . Ik where I’m from in the school system they don’t provide speech for that age they consider it too old . I would ask her doctors / pediatrician for recommendations and resources. I would also google some resources . Start of small and don’t push her too hard . You got this 💯. At least your are acknowledging where she needs help and trying to make an effort . Have a conversation with her and maybe start off with just you helping her and then allowing your older daughter to help

Im sorry that your daughter is having a challenging time with reading at school.

You might be interested in checking out this reading program. It includes games. I’m using it with my son (7 years old) for homeschool. The lessons are 20 minutes a day.

It’s an Orton-Gillingham-based phonics curriculum

I’ve heard that even children with some learning disabilities, like dyslexia, do well with this curriculum.

Their website says:
“scripted, open-and-go program was developed for busy parents, teachers, and tutors who want to teach reading in the most effective way possible.”

https://www.allaboutlearningpress.com

You might need some extra help like a a speech therapist and/or occupational therapist. There’s nothing wrong with needing extra help

I’m not in your state, so things may be different there. You need to request a psychoeducational evaluation in writing. You can also pursue outpatient speech therapy by asking your pediatrician for a referral for a speech eval.

I would suggest getting some fun books! The more she’s interested in the books, the more she’ll read. I would recommend Robert Munsch books, Junie B. Jones, Angelina Ballerina or Captain Underpants 😊

Good morning, and thank you so much you guys! I will take everybody advice on in this comment session 💗💗

The teachers should help. My daughter has been in speech therapy since kindergarten. She's in 2nd grade now. And she goes to a reading group once a week. She loves reading now. It's hard for children with speech problems because they usually try to spell and read words the way that they say them, which is usually wrong. The school should definitely give her more support. That's their job. Don't beat yourself up, seriously. I tell myself every day "I'm gonna be a better mom. I'm gonna spend more time on homework and reading and blah blah" in all honesty, I get home in the evening with just enough time to cook dinner and get everyone ready for bed.

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