Friendships after having a baby…

I only have a few friends who have known me a few years before i became a mum and i feel like they will never understand me until they become mums. They have their own lives where they have fun, spend time with friends, go dinners, museums etc and i’m never considering or included in any of these. They will come visit us and they’ll barely make conversations with me anymore. I feel like im completely invisible as a person and im now only seen as my baby’s mum. Which of course i am and i love it that im her mum but theres also a person behind that title that is being forgotten and i dont know how to feel about it.

My closest friend has been ignoring me, replying late to my messages and its just bringing up so much resentment. She is a busy person but im also a person who has feelings and again i feel like im not being thought of.

Can anyone offer any advice or tell me about your similar experiences and what happened to your friendships in the end? I really dont want to lose my friends as i always hold them dear and near to my heart but it’s upsetting me more and more over time…

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When our daughters are grown

Are we teaching them that circumcised boys are dirty and unclean?

You’re at the check out and notice the cashier gives you senior citizen discount. You’re very clearly under the cut off. Would you be excited for the extra savings or offended?

Turns out Monday morning at my Kroger and the lady slipped it in without saying anything. This has happened to my mom before and we were both obviously happy with a random discount but one of my sisters in law said she’d die if that happened to her because she’d be so embarrassed 😂

Something you’d never buy second hand?

What is something you’d never buy second hand and can’t believe people do. For me it’s clearly very worn shoes or mattresses🥴

Childcare Funding help

So my LO is under 2 and goes to nursery 2 full days a week. Me and husband both worked and got the 30 government funded hours. However my husband has recently lost his job of 8 years due to the company going under.

The worst part is he lost his job the day before I gave birth to our second child. So now I'm on rubbish maternity pay and he's got no earnings.

I'm wondering if we still entitled to any funded hours or not? I just don't want my LO to lose his place as obviously my husband is trying to get a job and when I go back to work we will need the childcare.

Has anyone been in this situation? Is there a grace period? Tyia!

Marriage struggles

Can someone who has had bad marriage problems before and gotten through it message me? I feel so alone in the situation I'm in and can't talk to my family about it and my unmarried friends are no help. Saying "just leave" is not helpful. If you can relate please comment so I can message you. I just really need either advice or just someone to talk to. Thanks 🩵

Friends

Imma just be honest imma mom of a beautiful 9 month old baby boy and I’m lonely