4-month regression

My baby boy is just over 4 months old and the sleep regression has started. Does anyone have a tips on how I can get past this stage, he is up every 30 mins - 1hr 30mins. It isn’t always for a feed but most of the time I think he just wants comfort. I am really struggling, I am so exhausted and don’t know what to do.

Also his feeding during the day is still every 1hr 30 mins - 2 hrs, he is EBF and I thought he would be going longer by now and when he feeds it is for no longer than 10 mins sometimes even less.

So if anyone has any advice, suggestions or tips that could help that would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you in advance.

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I know it's really hard stage iam going through this with my 5 month baby girl. What helps me is just knowing that it's not gonna last long and it will get better it's just one of they're development stage and she is struggling not just me. What I do as well her day naps are still pretty good, so when she's awake in morning I try to do house work, eat something and go to sleep with her for her first nap it does help, and obviously loads of coffee. Hang on it will get better! ❤️

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There’s probably not a lot you can do tbh other than ride the wave and let it take its course. I think at this age they’re becoming a lot more aware of their surroundings. It’s a phase and it will pass, but tbh you’ll be onto the next one then. I’d set my expectations v low and take it easy. There’s no rush. Utilise partners/friends etc to take baby on a walk or a drive so you can get in some naps. Cosleeping might help you get more sleep too so might be worth looking into.
My BF baby fed every 2-2.5 hours for his first year of life so he might never go longer. They get so much more than just food from BF-ing.
babywearing helped me a lot in the first 9m x

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I tried this. Soooooo worth it! https://www.takingcarababies.com/products/toddler-sleep-training

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Hey, my sons EBF too and I was feeding to sleep so I kept waking up hourly at night to feed him back to sleep. What id do differently with my next baby though that might make the regression a bit better is unlatch when he’s drowsy, tap or cuddle him to sleep that way when he wakes up between cycles he doesn’t need to be fed back to sleep. You might find tapping/cuddling him to sleep easier. It’s just How sleep associations work at this stage, they wake up wanting to be put back to sleep the same way they did previously! You’ll get through it, all the best x

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There's absolutely nothing that can be done, except rid it out, their sleep pattern could possibly change a lot up to 6 months and/or more.
Just go with their natural sleep cycles, rest when you can, I tried to fight this one a little by trying to encourage a different routine than what she had naturally developed, and it only made things worse, I know better too as she is my 4th.
It just made things so much more stressful.
Now I try to rest or sleep when she does (like i used to) and go with the flow.
Since then she has also started doing a lot more things she wasn't before

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i tried every trick in the book nothing helped just had to wait it out. lasted around 8 weeks , before it my LO was doing long stretches of 6 hours & 1 night feed, after never slept the same constant wakes and wouldnt allow anything less than 2 night feeds. hes 8 months now and only just dropped the second feed! i really feel for you its awful but it will end. just focus on self soothing when theyre the other side of it as my one struggled with this and had he have been able to, it would have made the world of difference. biggest regret was using a dummy as he spits it out constantly and cries for it back hes not long learnt to put it back in himself and go back to sleep and the nights are so much easier than they were.

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