Potty training a sensitive and anxious girl

My daughter will be 3 in June. She is a sensitive and anxious child and every time we try potty training it’s traumatic for everyone involved. I cried today because it was too much and it shouldn’t be that difficult..
She resists the potty
Cries
Is distressed
Withholds wee and poo

I feel she is ready because she tells me when she’s going to do a poo or wee in her nappy, she stays dry for hours and most nights, she communicates perfectly and can undress and dress herself so I’m just baffled how potty training has failed.

Is there any books or advice I can follow for sensitive and anxious children?

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Sorry I can't offer any advice nor help at this point, but I just want to say I can relate to this 😢 My boy is the same age and he just went through an awful week after a potty training attempt. He was also withholding his wee (not poo), but he was withholding for so long that we had to go to A&E and then spent a day in the hospital. He had to be catheterized also in order to empty his bladder.

I can only say to you, please don't feel pressured to be done with this potty training, I feel like when they are ready it will indeed be really easy. I'm telling you this with all the regrets I have because of this.

I also feel misled by the advice out there and the little information about such issues that can cause potty training. My boy was also showing all the readiness signs, yet he was not ready. 🥺

Xxx

I know the feeling 😓 My little boy is doing a bit better now, but I was definitely not ready for all these complications.

I'm sure they will get there, it just takes more time and patience for some 🤞🏻

May I ask if you've attempted potty training at home?

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