Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

2nd time around harder

This is my second baby. My first is almost 14, so there’s a bit of an age gap. Why is it with my second it feels like I have no idea what I’m doing. I’m freaking out about wake windows, nap times, I rarely ever go out because of this. With my first, we just went out and he slept whenever he slept. I also work from home/sahm this time around and with my first I worked outside. So these walls are all she knows and all I know. I’m losing my mind and I just want to feel normal. She will lose her shit if she is over tired so I try to protect that but I’ve been inside my house for her 9 months of life pretty much. How do I relax and just enjoy being a mom to a little again. I feel like such a failure knowing I should already know how to do all this.

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Do you want to go back to in office work? Do you want to join a play group and go to story time at the library? My gym, chuze, has a premium membership where you can drop kids 6mo or older off while you workout/sit in the hot tub/sauna/use the massage chairs for up to 2 hours a day.
It sounds like you've let your world get too small and that you need to get out of the house. But only you can know what is the right kind of getting out for you.

Every Baby is a NEW BABY! Not the same as any other one you’ve had.

Give yourself grace and use your village if you have one. This baby needs a little more of a schedule or routine it seems like, and that’s okay but yall are still adjusting!

All of those worries are 100% valid having a new baby with needs you’ve ever experienced before. Try to find your free moments to count to 30, get a shower, wash your hair, light a candle, play some music and dance around with your little !!

Anything to give you a pause until you’re on the other side of your new routine. You’ve got this Mama !

Hugs ✨

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Screen-Free

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Male nursery worker

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Tell me what your family does

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Being too sensitive?

I wanted people’s opinions on this and wondering if anyone else is in a similar situation! My husband is being super sensitive over friends and families opinions on who our new born baby daughter looks like. I think it’s ridiculous we are even bickering over this and having heated conversations. A lot of people have said she looks like her dad but some are saying she looks like me and just because he can’t see it, he gets annoyed with them for thinking it. I had a friend that came round to meet her and she said “she’s 100% ALL you” (me), he found this rude and disrespectful. I don’t think it is at all! Everyone sees babies differently and everyone has an opinion. I for sure don’t get upset if someone says baby girl looks like her daddy. It takes 2 to make a baby and she is gorgeous so it doesn’t matter, I’m the one that grew and birthed her but I don’t take offence! We then had a deep conversation and he opened up to me and said because he didn’t have much growing up as a child, he just would have loved our baby to look like him and to carry his features, considering she’s his biggest achievement. He’s convinced all MY friends and family just want her to look so badly like me and not him. (He’s very good looking may I add). I just get anxious every time someone comes round now as I don’t know what they will say regarding who she looks like! This is something I cannot control. He should be proud she’s gorgeous, happy and healthy. What are your opinions on this?!