How would you feel if you found out your 11 year old step daughter was dating a girl….and this girl is sending txts that are super toxic?

So my husband is a mess right now because we just found out that his daughter ( she’s 11) is dating a girl. It’s not that we have a problem if she likes girls it’s just since being with this girl she’s gotten a bad attitude, shes getting in trouble at school and we are really concerned about the txts too. Shes telling my step daughter that she thinks that my step daughter’s love language is physical touch. She talks about her mom doesn’t approve of her dating girls and how she got grounded for kissing girls….we are just really concerned about her wellbeing and bio isn’t doing anything to help, she took off the restrictions on her phone so now sometimes if we don’t check she is on her phone for 7 to 9 hours a day on the weekends….i don’t know what to do because my husband just isn’t taking this well

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Is this someone that she goes to school with? 11 year olds shouldn’t be dating. I think you can only control what happens in your house and I think you should have a rule that her phone stays in the main part of the house and she doesn’t have her phone at bedtime. You can also talk to the parents of the other girl.

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