Occupational therapist

So what's your take on an OT? How do you find the service and your child's OT?
Iv had one now close to 2 yrs
And now I'm extremely unhappy with the service
Some times im so pissed it feels like expensive play
Because it is extremely expensive and they only really "play together " I know children learn by play and visual is better than listening
And my son has come along away in 2 yrs
But
I feel like my OT has closed off ,stopped talking ,stop emails
Iv asked for him to write up something for the teachers to follow just a bit of guidance in how to handle him .he has adhd there for ,don't get me started on 2024 shitshow that it was the teachers where bullies as they didn't understand him,last year was better but there were still concerns about things and the teachers kept asking for help regarding body movement and fidgeting they kept asking for something to keep his hands busy ,eventually we found putty
He has meant to of visited the school in the last year and a half (2024 /2025)
But he has not done this
He was meant to go LAST YR but kept sayn bullshit about "scheduling " and the teachers and him cldnt " find a time to meet
Instead of being honest telling ME THE MOTHER I dont think its nessarey to attend the school be straight with me( im so pissed)
I find out an apt time has been made to visit the school then at the last minute he contacts the school ( 10 mins before end of day) I get a very pissed off email first thing next morning from the school saying wtf is going on,I also get an email that morning sayn he won't be coming

And im like wtf
As this was all set in place

Then so this didn't happen
A call was set in place( which I was fkn billed for!)
I spoke with
My sons teacher yesterday who said " he seemed quite young and was un interested IN THE CALL! He came off like he was in a shit
Aka being forced to do it
Im so mad as this is to help the progress of my son in school so pattern's are not repeated ( which they have been)

Now I'm like what shld I do? What wld u do?
Change providers .....
Find a different form of help....
Im at a loss I haven't been happy with him ( OT) for a good few months
And im sick of the bullshit

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My daughter just turned 2 in December and has been in OT since early November. I adore her occupational therapist because she's such a sweetheart but I honestly do feel I'm paying $65 for playdates. I always stay with her during her OT sessions so I always think to myself "How is this any different than what we do at home!?" I'm really considering talking to my husband about this and pulling her from it because it's honestly feeling like a waste of money.

Im the same he was really lovley and got me through my very close breakdown coz 2024 was shitshow at school, and now it seems like he just doesn't care to of acted like that to my sons teacher is shocking
Professionalism went out the window how old is your OT
Mine is 28 now I think

Change providers, he’s not doing this job because he cares. It’s just a check to him. These are still young children so yes it is going to be play based because it is easier for them to learn these skills in that way. I understand fully how they seem like “expensive play dates” but when you have the right provider it does make a difference. Have you spoken to his supervisor about your concerns? My own son is in OT and before then, wouldn’t even touch a utensil let alone let us hand over hand with him to eat his food. Now we just have to scoop it for him and he’s able to bring it to his mouth himself. He’s even coloring on his own now when he couldn’t before, like at all. They have specific targets and goals that get built upon little by little as the child progresses.

My son has an OT she trained in USA she's great it is play based but explains why throwing items harder or why does physical actions otherwise would not understand (waited 2 months to get onto her) she is excellent worth our son and does sensory play, swing, and some testing.

You arwnbest to get recommendations from a speech pathologist, doctor or mom friends?

Best of luck mamma❤️

How old is the child now? Contact cds and ask about OT services and switch the therapist, but definitely take him to OT if the teachers are still concerned.
I just sat in on one of my son’s OT sessions and it looked like play but she was exposing him to so many different things.
and did you guys try PT?

You can contact his company and request a different OT or try a different company all together. He is definitely not doing his job for what he should be doing it for 🙄. Talk to the school and your local social services for a list of places that offer OT.

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If yall still giving your kids processed food, pls seek help

I understand not everybody can afford healthy ingredients all the time, but I’m seeing so many moms on social media giving they kids artificial cereals, coffee, frozen pancakes, velveetta Mac and cheese, hot Cheetos, kraft, the list goes on. I’m sorry but are yall not capable of cooking from scratch or ?? On top of that, if you still using canola and vegetable oil in 2026 you gotta stop. Am I the only one that notices this ???

AITA?

This isn't a major issue, just wondering if I'm being a bit of an asshole.

• I do shift work, 5 out of 7 days, full-time.
• My partner works from home (mostly, sometimes he goes into the office) M-F, full-time.

Anyway, whenever I have a day off during the week he gets in his feelings when I make myself food (breakfast and lunch) but not him. His reason is he's working, I'm not - Which is fair but I've asked him how many times on a weekend has he gotten up, on his day off and made me breakfast and a lunch to take with me to work? You guessed it, 0.

So basically, just because I'm at home I don't think the responsibility to feed him should automatically fall on me when he manages to feed himself just fine while I'm at work.

I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

Should I respect his wishes??

I’ve been a SAHM for 4 years now and my husband does a great job providing for our family and we never need for anything. With that i still had to sacrifice some wants like shopping when I want getting my hair and nails done regularly so when I can I try to supplement for my wants and savings by selling my craft items at vendor markets and recently I’ve started donating plasma. Which has been consistent income for me. $125 twice a week. Well my husband has expressed that he doesn’t like me donating plasma. He feels like it’s not worth it to put my body through those conditions for $125. He even went out to sell one of his guns today and gave me all the money and told me “I shouldn’t have to donate plasma no more”. That was so sweet but I disagree. I planned on continuing to donate plasma to save for my kids birthdays thats coming up, a trip we have planned and our anniversary. I don’t know what to do. I finally found something that pays something consistently and my husband is against it. What should I do?

Big vent!

Hi mums.
I'm a first time mum in my 40s to twin boys.They are almost 5 months old and the biggest miracle in my life!
I am struggling!!!
I'm pretty sure I have ppa as my pregnancy was a very high risk and all I remember was crying from anxiety of all the ifs!Thankfully even born at 35 weeks and skinny,didn't need iu time.
My husband is not helping much because he's always too busy with work.He will "look" after them usually between 8pm-12am so I can have a chance to sleep.
He expects me to just sleep when I touch the pillow,even though I hear tje babies crying and him don't really bother because most of the times he'll be on his laptop working.
When I tell him I can't relax to fall asleep because I feel you r neglecting the babies,he says I'm the problem becauae I'm always there with them and don't give them alone time!!
I am angry!!I am furious!!
I can't keep.up.with housework becauae someone alwaya neess me and most of the times they nap I either cook and clean tje kitchen,do laundry or try and take a quick nap.
He doesn't help.around the house,becauae..guess what?always super busy.
I asked him nicely we could clean the house together every Saturday morning so it's easier and quicker for both of us and he said no,because he has a lot of work but probably wants to sleep until 12 or 2.
2 days ago a button of his coat ripped and I told him I'll sew it these days.
Earlier this morning while running late for his work,as always,he weara the coat and told him didn't get the chance to fix the button and sarcastically said..of.course u didn't!!!
I spent all night awake because one of the babies had congested nose and we've been trying to reduce one fees at night.
I wanted to punch him!!He left and I started crying...I cry so much,even at 5 months pp...
I can't go on like this anymoreeeee...
The crying in my ears is constant..my head is always numb..I've gained so much weight and can't find the strength to get back on track..
Even if I try to.find a therapist to just talk,is it gonna help?I really don't know😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Avoidant husband

I love my husband and he is a good man. We have some issues in our relationship however, as he has an avoidant attachment style (finds romance/intimacy/being emotional difficult). This comes from him having to be independent from a young age and having quite an abusive mother.
The issues in our relationship are mainly around a lack of sex and intimacy. I think the problem is that to feel turned on, I need to feel connected and wanted. My husband (being avoidant) will usually make jokes about being horny whereas I would want to have someone make me feel beautiful/sexy to get in the mood.
It sounds terrible but I've sometimes had dreams about exes that would make me feel this way, and the romance we had (eye contact, intensity, deep words). It makes me feel really guilty but I feel like i'm starved of that. My husband would like a lot more sex but I can't always force myself if I'm not feeling it.
We've spoken a bit about therapy but I know its often really expensive so we probably wouldn't be able to afford it. Do you have any suggestions please? I know that neither of us are wrong in what we want, just different but I'm scared about whether we can fix it or if we're doomed?