One Nap

Please can you help me. My lo wakes me up at night for an hour and only therefore sleeps around 9 hours between 9pm and 7am. We are trying to move her to one nap but she is always ready for a nap at 10.30am ish. How do we get her to stay up till 12 to do the one nap?! Maybe she's not ready yet? Her last wake window is 5 hours which she can do.

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My 14 month old wakes between 9am and 10am, goes for a nap between 2pm and 3pm usually for 1-2 hours, then goes into her cot between 7.30pm and 8pm with bottle and miss rachel (TV turns off after 2 hours timer) but she usually falls asleep between 9pm and 10pm.

Prior to the recent regression she's had she's slept through since 4 months old (very lucky) and would go to bed 8/9pm and get up about 9am. The regression was tough as she fought us but now she is settled into a wee bed routine it works for us.

Ps I'm also 34 weeks with baby number 2 so just wanted her to settle better and not be so upset so we just figured this works for us šŸ˜‚xx

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Honestly I don’t think she sounds ready for one nap yet šŸ˜…

If she’s already tired by 10:30 that’s a big sign her wake window isn’t quite long enough, so pushing her to 12 might actually be making her overtired. That can defo cause those long night wakes too.

I’d probably stick with 2 naps for now, even if the second one ends up being short, or just slowly push the morning nap later bit by bit instead of jumping straight to 12.

14 months is such an awkward in-between stage with sleep, loads of babies aren’t fully on one nap yet so you’re not doing anything wrong at all šŸ¤

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