Potty training help

So my little boy will be 3 in July. Hes quite stubborn, but a very quick learner. For example, he knows his basic colours, but when asked says everything is blue and laughs. Whenever I ‘suggest’ we use the potty he says no, but will occasionally say he needs to use the potty and just use it. He has a baby brother who is now 4 months, so I’ve been a bit slack the last few months. But grandparents have been making comments, so I think it’s either now or never.
Nursery have suggested I just keep leaving the potty out and let him do it as and when he wants - is this the best way because we aren’t making much progress.
Do I just go reward base - everytime he goes he gets a chocolate etc? Do I just remove his nappy one morning?

The older he gets, the more stressed I’m getting that I’ve left it too late 😅
Picture of him and his brother so the post doesn’t get lost 😅

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Mine wins the same he’s 3 in July start over a week ago and he hates it at first, we just leave the potty out and he does go now took a while but he will only go if he has his full bottoms off, so we just leave him without out on while we are at home but this week now he’s used to it going to start showing him how to pull his underwear etc down. Just takes time

My son was the same. One day after he came home from nursery he decided to just sit on it and I took the opportunity to commit😅 I had to stop doing the reward thing because he would just sit down and not use it and expect something and I don't want to teach him a bad habit because sitting on potty should be just a natural thing. But if that's your last result it's worth a try and just slowly cut it out over time. The most important thing is don't stress him or yourself out because you're just going to go backwards. Some kids just take a little longer and that's ok. Just communicate that with the nursery and see how they work around potty training as well and see if they can support you. Having a nappy off worked for us and we slowly started introducing underwear and then trousers on top of the underwear and we're still working with the underwear. He still has accidents because he thinks he has a nappy on. Xx just try it out without the nappy and see how it goes. Just have a mop handy😅

Might also be worth him seeing you go on the toilet and explain to him you're going potty then he might want to copy you x

My little boy is 3 28th July and we haven't even started 🙈 we used it once but found he wanted to sit on it for fun for hours and then nursery he just freaked out about going so we stopped. Now time is getting on and im like shall I?

Have you got books about potty training? I just tried to make it fun with books and potty songs. I also seen these potty training pants so thag when they wee/poo its uncomfortable and thags what makes the connections in the brain and how they learn. Maybe ask him if he wants to choose his own pants? Xx

Once you start you gotta commit to it. No going back

I did the naked method and my son was trained in a week with only one accident. I started a month before his birthday right after the holidays

Every time he went, we would do a potty dance. I rewarded him for pee and poo. Small prize for poo

He read his potty books whenever he sat on the potty. It was the cutest thing. Like an old man with a newspaper lol

Once I took the diaper off on day 1 that was it

He never peed overnight either. He was dry for a month before I even started training

Good luck! 🍀

My son is 3 in July too and last summer he did a couple wees and a poo on it but the poop scared him and he won’t go back on since, we moved house so didn’t want lots of change happening for him but whenever I mention the potty he just says no mummy don’t want too tried sticker chart, chocolate if he goes on it the lot. I need to just have a few days off in a row and him be naked I think but he’s so so stubborn. He’s so advanced in everything else, apart from this hahaha xx

My son was the exact same!! We started in January and still haven’t really got there. But we found actually taking him straight to the toilet, we got the toilet ladder step seat, he loves it. We made a sticker chart to hang up next to the toilet in our bathroom that when he’s on the toilet he picks what sticker he’s going to use after he’s done it. It’s been super slow for us, we’re due baby number 2 in a couple weeks but I don’t want to put pressure on him. He’ll get there 🥺

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I'm struggling. Have been for a while. I've had one break from parenting my daughter, that was for 3 hours in December when I left her with her dad.

She's 14 months old and I'm just tired. I've done every night by myself. He's out of bed at 4am and doesn't get home until 7-9pm. He drives for work, very physically tiring.
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"I don't get why you're so snappy with me"

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Since she's been born, he has been to a friend's once a month. Football - He stopped going for 7months, but has been the last two weekends.

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