Struggling with death

This is a very sensitive area. I have one little boy who is almost 2 and since I’ve had him I feel I really can’t cope with the death of other children. Even children I don’t know personally. I could cry on and off for a few days when I hear about a child dying but even after the dust has settled everytime I think of the child again I cry. Again this is of no relationship to me. I keep imagining what parents put in their coffins and how awful it must be and I can’t get the images out of my head. Is this normal because it doesn’t seem normal to me. I should note I am also pregnant again

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It could be possible signs of anxiety, but I’m not 100% sure I would definitely see a doctor or health professional as they may be able to help.
I have a lot of anxiety around my daughter dying, I know I shouldn’t and it’s such a horrible thought to even think about it but it took over my life. I wouldn’t let her go out anywhere without me because I was afraid something would happen. I wouldn’t let her sleep over at her dad’s house because again, thought something would happen.

It’s normal to worry about our children and what’s to come in the future but if it’s starting to affect your daily life then I would definitely suggest speaking to a professional about it as they can help with medication & therapy ❤️ sending you lots of love as I know how difficult it can be being in a similar situation xxx

It is one of the hardest things to witness specially with what is going in Gaza and how they get their kids after the bombing in plastic bags not even coffins but make it easier on the heart is that if any kid dies they go to Heaven to Ibrahim and Sarah may peace be upon them and they stay with them till judgement day and if their parents were patient and accepted this they will open the Heaven door for their parents
They are safe and happy
You can read more here
https://mercyinloss.org/where-is-my-child/
So don't worry all children from all religions are fine inshala❤️❤️ focus on your health and babies and may allah protect them for you

i think what your going through is normal. It just your natural instincts to be protective over your child.

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Describing the birth…

If you are going to be rude or insensitive to others, don’t comment on this post.

if you gave birth via caesarean, would it bother you if someone asked if you gave birth “naturally or by caesarean” (nothing to do with whether you were medicated).

When I gave birth I always answered “vaginally” to others and they seemed uncomfortable 🤣 there was nothing natural about that shit show lmao

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Or during the night do you think it’s good to have in case baby won’t settle, and I can sleep in the spare room with him.
Preferably I would want to sleep in the same bed as my partner so hopefully won’t need it.
I just wondered what other people did?

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