💗 Potty Training Tips for Toddlers - Support Group

Any tips to try?

So I bought the oyster 4-in-1 potty and I’m so glad I did because my daughter isn’t terrified of it like the others and will actually sit on it!! For entire minutes at a time!! (Others she would sit for 0.5 seconds but once a month-ish) She even says ‘sit on potty again’ and goes back! There’s often a bit of an issue when I pull her nappy down before she sits, she’ll say no, push me away, and once it’s down she says ‘all done’ and wants it back on but most times she’s quickly accepted it and sat with no nappy.
The problem comes when she actually needs a wee because she really refuses to take the nappy off and seriously panics once it’s off 😭 she gets upset telling me ‘all done’ and ‘nappy on’ over and over. I stay calm and reassuring, gently encouraging her to sit on the potty and she will but eventually she’ll get up and won’t go back, then wee while standing. I’ve tried encouraging her to come sit on the potty in that moment but she just stands there frozen. Every time she’s sat we talk about how wee wees go in the potty not nappy etc and she does understand to some extent but in the moment she panics so much that I can’t get through to her! Anything I can try? She likes doing deep breaths so we did lots of that on the potty tonight even though she didn’t need a wee, so I might try that in the morning? She’s dry overnight so the morning wee is my best bet because I know she needs to go!
Sorry this was so long lol

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Are we teaching our daughters to hover in a public restroom?

I never sit on a public seat, I’ve always been taught to hover & if I accidentally splash on the seat, wipe up afterwards. I will be instilling this into my daughter but my stepdaughter who’s almost 10 always sits on a public seat and it gives me the ICK. When I ask if her mom never taught her she’s like no, which is not surprising as she never taught her how to properly wash up, shower & clean her hair. It’s so irritating.

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Do you ever think some of your mom friends are ungrateful

I have a friend who has both sets of grandparents nearby and they watch their kids full-time for free while she and her husband works. Since her kids were born. One set of grandparents said they need a break and want to go on a month long cruise and they’re actually mad at the grandparents for “leaving them hanging”. Like excuse me? You have had kids for 4 years you need a back up plan and show gratitude for 4 years of free babysitting.
Some of us out her with zero help and they have the audacity.

Do you feel like your husband/ partner puts the same level of care into parenting, cooking, cleaning etc when it’s his “turn” in comparison to you?

I’m having such a hard time lately because it’s become so embarrassingly obvious that my husband just doesn’t care as much as I do. I feel like he compares himself to his own dad or other men in his life who walked out or do the absolute bare minimum so in his mind he’s excelling, and that watching his mom struggle as a single mom doing everything growing up has conditioned him to be almost blind to the labor of women like it’s just expected. I’ve talked to him about this multiple times and it will get better temporarily sometimes but not long at all

How do people clean with kids??

My son is 13 months old and I just cannot find the time to clean. I thought today what am I so scared of? Striped my sofa to hoover it and it was bad but my son was trying to eat things stand on there if move him tell him no I even put a film on for him and it did not end so I went and made him a cheese sandwich he didn’t eat it he just went back. I’m at a loss bc the mess is getting worse and overwhelming and by the time he’s in bed I’m exhausted he just never stops

Visitors

How is everyone navigating visitors once baby has arrived? I’m due to be having a c-section so I really want a quiet recovery at home. I’ve had major abdominal surgery before, and the last thing I wanted were visitors! I’d like to say no visitors for at least a week (2 would be nice), but equally I don’t want to upset anyone. I know my family will understand, it’s my partners I’m more concerned about.

My in-laws live an hour away, so I can’t imagine they’ll be happy to pop in for a quick visit, and both my partners sisters are 3 hours away, so I’m sure they won’t want to drive all that way just to visit for an hour max. I also don’t want to be bombarded by guests all at once, but how can we prioritise one sister over another. They both have multiple kids, so it’ll be a lot all in one go!

I get very anxious and overwhelmed by social situations, and I imagine I’ll find it difficult with the hormone shifts after birth.

Is my child delayed ?

Recently had parent evening for my child (4 in June) and the teacher said she is not where she should be she does not know her shapes, letters or numbers.

My child is able to show me where shapes are on a poster for example if I said find the rhombus she would find it however if I i said name it she couldn’t,

On a number line if I said “find number 4 she would find it” but she is not able to count to 4 correctly but she could show on her hands 80% of the time.

She can recognise letters around 15 correctly but will not say the alphabet.

The teacher also mentioned she doesn’t hold a pen correctly but I have seen her hold a pen with pincer grip and use them in both hands correctly.

I’ll post an image of what educational based supplies we have in the Comments please tell me if we can add anything 🙂