Sleep training

Would recommend using an app to support you. I’m using little ones and began yesterday. They phase into it gently which is helpful so you don’t start with nights immediately- just naps. You have to do what feels right for you emotionally. I’m adjusting their timings for what I can cope with. Good luck!

I did an adjusted ferber (kept it 3-5-8 mins didnt change) as needed her to learn self soothing sooner rather than later cause i went back to work. Last night was night 10 and since night 5 shes been falling asleep within 10 mins (with zero to minimal crying/protesting). First night was easier than expected, night 2 and 3 broke me a little bit. However ever since then she’s been sleeping better at night, her restlessness is gone. Only wakes up for feeds and thats it

Started when she was 4.5 months old

I did 3-5-8-8-8-8… and didnt change it after each night. The time to sleep each night was 30mins, 33 mins, 28 mins, 20 mins, 8 mins, 13mins, 7 mins, 12 mins, 4 mins and 8 mins. Night 2 and 3 had the most crying and i nearly gave up but now she does a short protest cry if that and then falls asleep shortly after. We’ve only did it for the initial night sleep, during naps we still rock her a bit but she falls asleep so much easier now too (not sure if its related or not) and like i said at night she only wakes up for feeds now.

I’m on day 3 of using little ones app, it’s £30 one off, so much detailed info to guide you through the whole thing. I really think it’s worth buying as a guide and also coaching you with the inevitable issues eg falling asleep for 10 minutes in the car, or only napping for 20 minutes instead of 45 etc also it teaches you about crying and what to look out for, it also has time guidelines. Then you can adjust it for your baby. It starts with day napping then moves onto nights as nights are so hard

I leave the room, stay right outside the door. When I go in, I dont pick her up. I put my hand on her chest and calmly talk to her for 30-60 seconds. She calms down during this and sometimes even smiles at me. First few days, after i left she started crying again. I also left te room even if she was calmed down but still crying a bit. Last night was night 12 and she just talked to herself for 8 mins and then KO'd. I honestly dont think I would have continued if she wasnt herself the next day, she still woke up smiling each time or if her sleep through the night didnt get better either. Though I took a week or so to fix her naps before even starting this.

I have always struggled with leaving my children to self soothe as it broke my heart hearing them cry.I found what worked for me was to lay at the side of them so they know I’m there but not rocking/patting or soothing them to sleep and then eventually they both began to fall asleep alone. I then transitioned slowly to me not being in the room and them no longer needing to be with them. You will find a way that works for you it is hard but you will get there eventually x