Naps

My baby is 3 months old tomorrow (Christmas Day baby), and she will not go in her cot anymore. During the day or at night time. She used to. I can’t get anything done, and have no break from her. Has anyone else experienced this?

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My Christmas day baby will only nap on me to 🤷

My Christmas Eve baby is also the same at the minute! Will not sleep in the day x

I placed Muslins in the cot/moses basket which had been on me for a while so that my scent is in there.

I also ensure the room is dark, no background sound but a lullaby - I always sing to her - and take her out when she’s disrupted to start over again.

If that fails, contact naps or place her in the wrap to encourage her to sleep then transfer once she’s in deep sleep .

Start it back up in small stages and they should comply. Don’t force it, or they’ll see it as a negative space

If she won’t lay flat at all as I see you mentioned pram, it could be silent reflux? I’ve still yet to have a good night with mine sleeping in his bassinet but we did go through a phase where he couldn’t be put down there or in his pram at all without crying within minutes and suspected it was silent reflux as we got given gaviscon from the doctors to try for a and it fixed that problem.. he’s now back in the pram and majority of his day sleep is in that and can manage longer stints in the bassinet however that for us isn’t very long but think that’s a separate issue 😂

I do have Gaviscon for her, but haven’t noticed a difference. She squirms alot when i put her down. When I get her to nap I have to do a whole routine with her, sshh’ing, rocking, dummy and white noise. So I don’t know if it’s just that for the pram. I tried the pram today but she had a meltdown!

Same issue here. Since she is about 2.5/3 months she wont sleep without contact and wake up instantly or after 30mn max . We contact nap during the day and cosleep at night. I still try to put her in the next to me but after 2 attempts/false starts she gets overtired and it becomes more difficult to get her to sleep. I am trying here n there without forcing it for my own sanity. Also she is breastfed exclusively.

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