Frustrated and tired
I am feeling frustrated. I do all of the nights every day of the week because I’m home and my husband works Monday to Friday. My baby is currently going through the four month regression so I’m up many times a night. My husband is constantly yawning and telling me how tired he is even on the weekends he’s currently sleeping in a different room so he’s not even in the same room as the baby. this morning.l I told him I was feeling really tired and his response was “I feel you”. Of course he can be tired as well from work or other things it’s not a competition however I can’t even imagine what it would be like to be able to sleep through a whole night in a room away from my baby. I’m completely knackered and although he gives me time here and there to catch up for example, he took her downstairs very early this morning so I can get an extra two hours in bed. It doesn’t even start to balance out the sleep I am losing. I feel a lack of awareness on his part and it’s starting to really annoy me…. Am I right to feel this way or being oversensitive? Should I say something or leave it?
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Say something! My partner works, sometimes starting at 7am, sometimes finishing at 10pm and we split every night, I can’t even imagine having to do every night on my own! It is just as hard if not harder to look after a baby all day as it is to go to work!
My husband works mon-fri and we still share nights?? That makes no sense. You're looking after a baby which is still working as hard if not harder during yet day. You can't rest?? So how does he expect you to be up in the night alone and also function all day raising a baby? He's being incredibly selfish.
Exactly the same here !! I could strangle him some day 🤣🤣🤣
Do have an honest conversation with him, or you may end up being resentful. That's very hard to overcome. He needs to be aware of what sleep deprivation is, it goes way beyond being 'tired'.
You're not oversensitive, you're 4 months pp!! The sleep deprivation is so tough and it's impossible to understand unless you're in it. Calmly explain how you feel and what would improve things. Men need firm guidance sometimes... x
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