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Opinions on top ups?

I’m absolutely baffled…I had SO many people coming for me on TikTok because I said I top my baby up.

I had a rough start to breastfeeding, baby had jaundice & a tongue tie so she was on the boob 24/7 but wasn’t gaining the weight back that she lost. Everyone was super concerned and kept saying she will be admitted to hospital if I continue just breastfeeding. I was advised to pump at every feed. Then feed her that in a bottle after a feed. Then if she’s still hungry, give her some formula. She has never been sick from ‘over feeding’. She’s not a sicky baby at all. So there’s no signs that I’m giving her more than she can handle.

Anyways, It made her weight go up super fast, now that she’s back up to birth weight, the Drs, midwives, health visitors & lactation consultants have all told me to CONTINUE what I’m doing. It’s made her weight stable and it’s made her so much more of a happy baby.

Everyone on tiktok was saying that what im doing is dangerous and misleading to other new mums and saying i shouldn’t ever top up. Saying crying all day is normal because its to build my supply (even tho baby is on boob constantly + im pumping).

Im honestly so confused. What happened to feeding on demand? What happened to following hunger ques? What happened to listening to medical advice?
As if I’m being told by strangers to just let my baby be hungry all day. So so confused!

I NEVER knew topping up was viewed so badly and strongly by people!
I really wish I didn’t have to, I wish my breast was enough for her. I wish I could feed for 20 mins then leave the house but I can’t. She’d be on the boob 24/7. We wouldn’t be Able to do anything! I had 2 weeks of that before the feeding plan it was hell.

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Mama, do whatever works for you. Sending love ❤️

Who cares what other people think? If this is working for you and your baby then you do it. I had to do the same when my first was born.

Also, Everyone seems to think TikTok is the be all and end all these days, it’s literally toxic and full of crap. Delete it!

I, too, had trouble at the start with breastfeeding. My LO was under weight, and sleeping to the point of being unresponsive when he needed to be fed. I was advised by midwives to top up with formula if he continued to essentially cluster feed all day.

We're now up to birth weight, and Im still having a little trouble breastfeeding. I've now just seen a lactation specialist and told he has a mild tongue tie, and she's told me to continue topping up as well. She also told me that if LO is feeding longer than 40 minutes at the breast, to take him off and feed him from a bottle of expressed or formula. Even just for my mental health because breastfeeding nonstop every single day isn't sustainable.

I would go with what the professionals are telling you and not what random on tiktok are saying.

If it's working for you then why not carry on. But I will say what you're doing is called triple feeding and is incredibly hard for most people, and is only usually recommended for 2-3 days at most by most lactation consultants! They don't usually see it as a long term fix.

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