would you stick around or leave

not about me personally or anyone i know!! but i saw this online on a different app and wanted your opinion, just for fun! i like seeing everyone’s perspectives! okay so, if someone you know and you’re close to (friend, best friend, or a family member) was in a toxic/ abusive relationship would you still be friends with them and try to help get them out or would you cut them off for your own safety and mental health?

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This was (one of) my bestie for years. She had 3 IVO’s on her partner, each one with a year expiration date, 3yrs in a row. She let him visit the kids supervised but she knew for her peace of mind if he F*ks up even ONCE she can call the cops and they’ll put him behind bars so that was her security blanket to his abuse. Did I cut her off- course not, she was one of the few mums I found that liked taking her kids out like I did so we did play dates 2-3* a week for years. She knew I didn’t like him and she knew I was there for her I told her even if she needed someone at 2am IDC, girl call me (she lived 5mins away) On her own she moved interstate away from him anyway. She left when she was ready, would’ve been no point me telling her that, she knew. She just needed time.

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100% still be friends with them and try to help them

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What would you do?

If your man provided for you and the family eg. Paid the rent/mortgage, all the bills, food shop, children's things/activities, and gave you some money to pay for your needs, would you choose to go out to work or would you be a stay at home mum?

Specifically to mums with children under the age of 5.

Before having children, my partner told me it would be totally up to me if I wanted to return to work after having children but I didn't have to if I didn't want to/wasn't ready. I went back after maternity leave but I missed my child and quit my job to stay home. My partner takes care of everything financially so I am currently a SAHM until further notice.

I'm just curious to know what other mums would choose?

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Notice

Can I hand in my notice when on maternity leave

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Bad friendships after baby

I’ve had a long distance friendship since 2008 (met at a university study abroad program) and we’ve visited each other at least once a year, traveled together, she met my entire family. We were close. She was a bridesmaid at my wedding 4 years ago. She was one of the first I told I was pregnant.
I invited her to my baby shower, which she couldn’t make, but she said she sent us a gift. I never received anything, which was fine (I honestly didn’t even realize it because life is chaotic a month before your due date).
When my son was born, we posted an announcement on Instagram which she commented “congrats guys!” And I never heard back from her.
I sent her a photo of us on Christmas to say merry Christmas. I texted her on her birthday months later, she text me on my birthday. But that’s it. She has never once asked how I’m adjusting to mom life or how my son is doing.

Am I being petty for refusing to reach out to her after all this? There’s been zero communication, even on social media. I don’t understand what changed besides me having a kid, or not thanking her for this gift she supposedly sent. I’ve just been super hurt that my entire world has changed with a baby, and my supposed best friend ghosted me.

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Let’s get nasty!

When was the last time you showered?🤔

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Maternity leave

can I hand in my notice when I’m maternity leave ?

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