Really struggling with potty training

Hey guys, I’m really struggling with potty training. My little girl is just refusing to use the toilet or the potty. She wants to wear pants but doesn’t understand the process. She will ask for a nappy when she wants to wee. Nursery are telling me she uses the toilet but I’m not convinced she’s actually doing anything. I’ve never seen her do anything in a potty or a toilet. Over the weekend she didn’t wee all day because she wanted to wear pants and then in the evening she asked for a nappy and did a wee. I’m really feeling the pressure as other children who are younger than her are fully potty trained and she’s not even close. I am soo out of my depth with this I don’t really know how to go about it. I’ve just ordered a book a friend recommended however I know every learns at their own pace but I’m starting to feel a little embarrassed when everyone else’s little one is asking to go to the toilet and we are still in nappies. I’m really deflated tbh I’ve been trying for months taking different approaches. Literally drained.

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Hi, call their helpline tomorrow https://eric.org.uk/potty-training/ and please don’t be embarassed. We’re in the same boat. They say it’ll get better, so let’s hope it’s true😅
Fingers crossed!

Id really recommend the oh crap potty training book. Stick her in nappies for two weeks and hide the potty / make no reference to it at all. And then follow that method from start to finish c

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Daniel tiger potty training show is really good, my little boy watched that when we started potty training and I feel like it helped him understand the process of it

I feel the same way, my daughter won’t say she needs the toilet I have to take her every 30-40 mins she only does wees and will literally poo in her pants rather than go in the toilet it’s so frustrating cos I’ll put her on the toilet she does nothing then 5 mins later she’s pooped her pants 🤢

my 1st attempt was fail.i literally spent about 7hrs watching waiting only for her to do it when I took my eye off for a sec.
2nd time I seen her dancing around refusing potty and I just said listen you either go on that potty or the big toilet and she went the big toilet, I started taking her every 40 mins even if she didnt want to id say well if your not going im.going 1st and she would always want to go then. we continued like that until I felt she grasped it. toilet b4 leaving house, took her as soon as we got to places before we left places. constant asking reminding, it really didnt take that long shes been dry day and night for nearly 12 months now with very few accidents.

How long have you been trying for? We started potty training in December, my little boy didn't really stop having accidents until end of week 2. Then he was dry at home but having accidents at playgroup until around week 4/5. He still has the occasional accident usually at playgroup but has come such a long way. I think the timeframe can be so different for each child, I had people telling me he should get it within a week but that wasn't the case for me & at points I did want to stop but I really stuck it out and kept reminding him. We bought this rewards jar with wooden cut outs of wees & poos so every time he would do one I would let him put one into the jar and gave him a sticker. Then we told him if he can fill up the whole jar he can go to the shop and get a small treat. We filled it 3 times then took it away & he's been doing really well. He thrives from praise so it worked really well for us. Maybe something to keep in mind xx

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